"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Get a girl to cry and she's yours

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Generally.

Any chick that teared up over something I said or did REGARDLESS if we ever did anything, hooked up, dated or whatever was basically in love with me.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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There's some truth to that. The roller coaster of emotions can work. The rule I go by is: Make them love you or make them hate you.

Anything in between is where guys end up in the Friend Zone.
 
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True. But that only lasts so long. Eventually, those tears will dry up and their emotions will change. What happens next is what usually determines if it is real love or just plain lust.
 
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True enough -- just be on the lookout for crocodile tears. Same rules, do not apply.
 
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Johnnyventana said:
True enough -- just be on the lookout for crocodile tears. Same rules, do not apply.
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Bingo.

I once got this girl to cry hard for me as I was walking out on her for showing disrespect. She didn't actually love me, she just had never actually been rejected by someone before.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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yes, also true that if they cry one too many times, they're history.
 
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And how do you get a girl to become emotional?

The girl I'm dealing with now just doesn't really react to what I do. She just doesn't care.

Of course I could say something really mean to her and get her mad at me, but I don't think that's what the OP is talking about.
 
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Maxtro said:
And how do you get a girl to become emotional?

The girl I'm dealing with now just doesn't really react to what I do. She just doesn't care.

Of course I could say something really mean to her and get her mad at me, but I don't think that's what the OP is talking about.
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If she doesn't care, walk.
If her interest level isn't high, then there is no point in pursuing anything further. You are just going to set yourself up for heartbreak.
 
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Maxtro said:
And how do you get a girl to become emotional?

The girl I'm dealing with now just doesn't really react to what I do. She just doesn't care.

Of course I could say something really mean to her and get her mad at me, but I don't think that's what the OP is talking about.
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Right, the point of my post was more so just to point out a confirmation sign. If a chick doesn't get emotional whatsoever over you then her interest is low as f*ck. If she cries, thats great. If she yells at you, thats good too although not as good as the crying.
 
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Thanks, so it can be a good interest level check, but not really a way to boost her interest.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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spinaroonie said:
The opposite of love isn't hate, it's indifference.
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That's very interesting.

It's pretty easy to switch between love and hate because they are both very strong emotions.

But Indifference is a complete lack of emotion.
 
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Maxtro said:
That's very interesting.

It's pretty easy to switch between love and hate because they are both very strong emotions.

But Indifference is a complete lack of emotion.
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Yep.

Always be careful of emotional slvts (or girls who just want an emotional rollercoaster) though. They're very fun and addicting, but they can drop you in a second.
 
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Maybe if they cry over YOU they are yours, but if they cry over previous trauma they tell you about or over a movie you watch together, it's not the same.
 
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spinaroonie said:
The opposite of love isn't hate, it's indifference.
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One of the most fundamental premises of the DJ. The reason you should never react to their bad behavior in an emotional way. If you tell them off, it's like telling them you love them. Just act like you don't care. NC.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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bigneil said:
Maybe if they cry over YOU they are yours, but if they cry over previous trauma they tell you about or over a movie you watch together, it's not the same.
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Not true in all cases, but maybe mine is rare.

A girl that I tried to get with who was kind of a "hard-to-get" went on a date with me once, and we ended up just walking and talking. She started talking about her dying Grandpa, she was crying, and I just kissed her, and we ended up making out right there. That relationship was my first and longest, lasting about 1 1/2 years. I broke up with her last June and she still tells nearly every girl that I know how much she still loves me.
 
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Even though this topic is already out to date but still,

When a girl trying her hardest holding back for not crying infront of you because she is afraid and considered your feeling that you may will feel bad and despise her , but then you judged her effort saying she doesn't care or doesn't love the man then you push it to their end. what will happened if you finally seeing her explode and what will you do..??

"Run!!!! This girl is manipulative!!" Or
"****!! I love her.. I don't want to be the one that make her crying but...., we have to break up.. It's better for her.."

What a loser d*ck...

Jast say you don't love the girl from the start if you can not accept her the way she is.
If a man trully love a girl, isn't he have to make some effort to changing his own behavior..? Well.. Of course if the girl also love you back by willingly to work things out together.

Relationships should be mutual.
It wouldn't work if only one that willingly put their ego down and the other one being an *******. It's a torture!!

Geeezz.....
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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