You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Look I'm not trying to say soreness is the ONLY indicator of a good training session, but it's a good rule of thumb. When your body is pushed into uncharted waters, you WILL get sore. And doing that is the only way to force your body to adapt.mrRuckus said:Just the very first google search result among hundreds, buddy:
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
speed dawg said:Look I'm not trying to say soreness is the ONLY indicator of a good training session, but it's a good rule of thumb. When your body is pushed into uncharted waters, you WILL get sore. And doing that is the only way to force your body to adapt.
looks fine to me....the only thing i would do is replace cable pulldowns with skull crushersRampage1 said:hey effort, I am just going to do it for 3-4 weeks to get some quick growth and then will go back on to heavy weights to shock the system.
this is how im doing it: Monday chest and back
Wednesday legs
Friday shoulders and arms
I am doing one movement for each bodypart, which is the following:
chest: flat bench
back: barbell row
legs: squat
shoulders: military press
biceps: dumbell curls
Triceps: cable pulldowns
As for the soreness topic I have felt sore in my chest the day after monday's workout. Just need to make sure I get my 6 meals in a day, though I am going to have to eat cleaner than before as I want gains to be lean this time! (my last cycle I made massive gains but also made fat gains!) P.s. i can't afford it at the minute but I am going to get some creatine an glutamine next week hopefully.
What you think of the routine for the next few weeks?
I agree with both statements. I probably shouldn't have said "will". But it is my rule of thumb that I've personally gotten results from. I like a lot of variety anyway, so it works for me.mrRuckus said:You just need to go beyond what they're comfortable doing at their current adaptation. You can still get a growth stimulus without soreness............."a rule of thumb" and saying "WILL" as an absolute contradict each other.
Right now, after a long hiatus with a herniated disc, I can 1RM bench press 255 and I won't squat any more than 225. I don't deadlift or power clean right now. In early 2006 before my back problems, I was around 285 bench, 350 squat and 200 power clean. I usually never maxed on deadlift, repped at the end with 225. 5'10", 195 lbs.kickureface said:speed dawg just curious how much do you lift?
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.