Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
speed dawg
Master Don Juan
speed dawg
Master Don Juan
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
speed dawg
Master Don Juan
http://www.bodybuilding.com/fun/henkin6yy.htm
speed dawg
Master Don Juan
Look I'm not trying to say soreness is the ONLY indicator of a good training session, but it's a good rule of thumb. When your body is pushed into uncharted waters, you WILL get sore. And doing that is the only way to force your body to adapt.mrRuckus said:
Not getting sore means your body has adapted. It either needs to be pushed more or something needs to change.
No offense to the author, but Arnold is quite a bit more knowledgeable in the basics. He basically echoes Joe Weider's principles.
The only measurement you should be using to make certain that you are growing is......are you ready for this?.......overload progression.
Soreness has too many variables and thus is a poor indicator of progress. The key should be to make sure that you are adding weights, changing sets/reps, while maintaining the correct form. At no point, should form be compromised just to add 10 more pounds or to get last couple of sets. So long as you're doing this, you will be actively growing.
And don't forget nutrition. But that's a given.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I-tallionStallion
Master Don Juan
Ive heard many people like soreness because it makes them feel like they have worked their body so maybe that's the reason for them liking it so much.
And well Arnold is Arnold, I have huge amount of respect for the Arnold but he also is a genetic freak who's been huge almost all his life.
speed dawg
Master Don Juan
There's a difference in soreness and pain. Pain is your body telling you something's not right. Soreness isn't painful. Uncomfortable maybe, but not painful.
Like I said, soreness isn't the ONLY factor. But it is ONE factor, to me, anyway.
I-tallionStallion
Master Don Juan
this is how im doing it: Monday chest and back
Wednesday legs
Friday shoulders and arms
I am doing one movement for each bodypart, which is the following:
chest: flat bench
back: barbell row
legs: squat
shoulders: military press
biceps: dumbell curls
Triceps: cable pulldowns
As for the soreness topic I have felt sore in my chest the day after monday's workout. Just need to make sure I get my 6 meals in a day, though I am going to have to eat cleaner than before as I want gains to be lean this time! (my last cycle I made massive gains but also made fat gains!) P.s. i can't afford it at the minute but I am going to get some creatine an glutamine next week hopefully.
What you think of the routine for the next few weeks?
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
speed dawg said:
There's an article from iron addict out there that if i remember correctly is that his delts NEVER get sore no matter what he does to them. He did something like 6 sets of 30 or something to them purposely just to see if there was anything he could do to get them sore. Come to thikn of it, the front of my shoulders don't get sore either, and if i recall correctly i read something before that the front delts are one of the most resistant to soreness for some reason.
Some parts on certain people do not get sore.
I could type all day long and my fingers and forearms would be sore but they would not be growing bigger. I could do 50 reps of 5 lbs bicep curls and not grow bigger but be sore. I can run around at a softball tournament (this weekend, by the way) and i know i will be sore but my legs aren't growing from it.
It does *NOT* take that much stimulation to trigger a growth response from muscles. You just need to go beyond what they're comfortable doing at their current adaptation. You can still get a growth stimulus without soreness. Doing two extra reps than last workout isn't necessarily going to get you sore but it's still going to trigger growth. I add weight or about 2 reps every workout and i often have no soreness, especially in certain muscles that just don't get sore for me very often.
The only time i get much soreness anymore is from completely new exercises done at different rep schemes. I adapt quickly, do more volume than most of you, and really don't get very sore. I still get stronger and bigger.
The funny thing about this is that no one even knows WHY you get sore so to link it directly to muscle growth is fairly random.
"a rule of thumb" and saying "WILL" as an absolute contradict each other.
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speed dawg
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I agree with both statements. I probably shouldn't have said "will". But it is my rule of thumb that I've personally gotten results from. I like a lot of variety anyway, so it works for me.mrRuckus said:
Right now, after a long hiatus with a herniated disc, I can 1RM bench press 255 and I won't squat any more than 225. I don't deadlift or power clean right now. In early 2006 before my back problems, I was around 285 bench, 350 squat and 200 power clean. I usually never maxed on deadlift, repped at the end with 225. 5'10", 195 lbs.kickureface said:
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.