This is a question that I've pondered for quite some time, even before I started visiting this site and getting interested in self-improvement. To just what degree are we defined by our genetics, and to what extent do we have the power to transform ourselves? Where does one draw the line between a realistic goal for self-improvement and an unrealistic one based on that?
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Genetics limiting potential?
- Thread starter Foggy
- Start date
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
ConantheLibertarian
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Keep testing the water and find out where the line is 
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.KneghtRyder
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Foggy said:
the question is do u ponder over something u can't change, or make teh best out of what u have and improve urself teh best u can..
do u really have an option, does this question matter outside of a scientic class ?
Michele l'Arcangelo
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for some reason some people cannot accept reality.
YES... its un realistic for some short Asian kid getting a tall blonde chick... it can happen... IF the girl was willing to "accept you for who you are"... but face it... its NOT going to happen.
face it... some people have standards that they can't live up to... it just is...
conan is right... keep testing the waters and find the line...
YES... its un realistic for some short Asian kid getting a tall blonde chick... it can happen... IF the girl was willing to "accept you for who you are"... but face it... its NOT going to happen.
face it... some people have standards that they can't live up to... it just is...
conan is right... keep testing the waters and find the line...
Moofahsa
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I'll throw my 2 cents in here-
I'm a genetic freak, I'm 6'9" barefoot. Sometimes its awesome, other times it sucks.
Just be content with what you have, you can't change your bonestructure or skin color...
I might have been a bad ass in the stoneage, able to do battle with longer spears or something (LOL)
If your short, you won't be picking up tall hotty blondes
If your tall you won't be able to pick up those fine lookin petite asians.
I'm a genetic freak, I'm 6'9" barefoot. Sometimes its awesome, other times it sucks.
Just be content with what you have, you can't change your bonestructure or skin color...
I might have been a bad ass in the stoneage, able to do battle with longer spears or something (LOL)
If your short, you won't be picking up tall hotty blondes
If your tall you won't be able to pick up those fine lookin petite asians.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Snow Plowman
Master Don Juan
Huge limiting beliefs
Everyone is capable of doing what the next man can do pickup wise. Saying a short kid can't get a tall girl is irrational and dumb because all those superfical excuses we come up with don't matter one bit.
I personally have a friend who is 5'4 that had a 6'2 girl all over him. I don't know 100% if he pulled or not but it is what it is.
The sky is the limit when it comes to this game. Everyone can get good to the point of having multiple women, 3somes, lays on first day, etc. It all just takes practice.
Everyone is capable of doing what the next man can do pickup wise. Saying a short kid can't get a tall girl is irrational and dumb because all those superfical excuses we come up with don't matter one bit.
I personally have a friend who is 5'4 that had a 6'2 girl all over him. I don't know 100% if he pulled or not but it is what it is.
The sky is the limit when it comes to this game. Everyone can get good to the point of having multiple women, 3somes, lays on first day, etc. It all just takes practice.