This is a question that I've pondered for quite some time, even before I started visiting this site and getting interested in self-improvement. To just what degree are we defined by our genetics, and to what extent do we have the power to transform ourselves? Where does one draw the line between a realistic goal for self-improvement and an unrealistic one based on that?
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Genetics limiting potential?
- Thread starter Foggy
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
ConantheLibertarian
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Keep testing the water and find out where the line is 
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.KneghtRyder
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Foggy said:
the question is do u ponder over something u can't change, or make teh best out of what u have and improve urself teh best u can..
do u really have an option, does this question matter outside of a scientic class ?
Michele l'Arcangelo
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for some reason some people cannot accept reality.
YES... its un realistic for some short Asian kid getting a tall blonde chick... it can happen... IF the girl was willing to "accept you for who you are"... but face it... its NOT going to happen.
face it... some people have standards that they can't live up to... it just is...
conan is right... keep testing the waters and find the line...
YES... its un realistic for some short Asian kid getting a tall blonde chick... it can happen... IF the girl was willing to "accept you for who you are"... but face it... its NOT going to happen.
face it... some people have standards that they can't live up to... it just is...
conan is right... keep testing the waters and find the line...
Moofahsa
Senior Don Juan
I'll throw my 2 cents in here-
I'm a genetic freak, I'm 6'9" barefoot. Sometimes its awesome, other times it sucks.
Just be content with what you have, you can't change your bonestructure or skin color...
I might have been a bad ass in the stoneage, able to do battle with longer spears or something (LOL)
If your short, you won't be picking up tall hotty blondes
If your tall you won't be able to pick up those fine lookin petite asians.
I'm a genetic freak, I'm 6'9" barefoot. Sometimes its awesome, other times it sucks.
Just be content with what you have, you can't change your bonestructure or skin color...
I might have been a bad ass in the stoneage, able to do battle with longer spears or something (LOL)
If your short, you won't be picking up tall hotty blondes
If your tall you won't be able to pick up those fine lookin petite asians.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Snow Plowman
Master Don Juan
Huge limiting beliefs
Everyone is capable of doing what the next man can do pickup wise. Saying a short kid can't get a tall girl is irrational and dumb because all those superfical excuses we come up with don't matter one bit.
I personally have a friend who is 5'4 that had a 6'2 girl all over him. I don't know 100% if he pulled or not but it is what it is.
The sky is the limit when it comes to this game. Everyone can get good to the point of having multiple women, 3somes, lays on first day, etc. It all just takes practice.
Everyone is capable of doing what the next man can do pickup wise. Saying a short kid can't get a tall girl is irrational and dumb because all those superfical excuses we come up with don't matter one bit.
I personally have a friend who is 5'4 that had a 6'2 girl all over him. I don't know 100% if he pulled or not but it is what it is.
The sky is the limit when it comes to this game. Everyone can get good to the point of having multiple women, 3somes, lays on first day, etc. It all just takes practice.