This is a question that I've pondered for quite some time, even before I started visiting this site and getting interested in self-improvement. To just what degree are we defined by our genetics, and to what extent do we have the power to transform ourselves? Where does one draw the line between a realistic goal for self-improvement and an unrealistic one based on that?
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Genetics limiting potential?
- Thread starter Foggy
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
ConantheLibertarian
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Keep testing the water and find out where the line is 
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.KneghtRyder
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Foggy said:
the question is do u ponder over something u can't change, or make teh best out of what u have and improve urself teh best u can..
do u really have an option, does this question matter outside of a scientic class ?
Michele l'Arcangelo
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for some reason some people cannot accept reality.
YES... its un realistic for some short Asian kid getting a tall blonde chick... it can happen... IF the girl was willing to "accept you for who you are"... but face it... its NOT going to happen.
face it... some people have standards that they can't live up to... it just is...
conan is right... keep testing the waters and find the line...
YES... its un realistic for some short Asian kid getting a tall blonde chick... it can happen... IF the girl was willing to "accept you for who you are"... but face it... its NOT going to happen.
face it... some people have standards that they can't live up to... it just is...
conan is right... keep testing the waters and find the line...
Moofahsa
Senior Don Juan
I'll throw my 2 cents in here-
I'm a genetic freak, I'm 6'9" barefoot. Sometimes its awesome, other times it sucks.
Just be content with what you have, you can't change your bonestructure or skin color...
I might have been a bad ass in the stoneage, able to do battle with longer spears or something (LOL)
If your short, you won't be picking up tall hotty blondes
If your tall you won't be able to pick up those fine lookin petite asians.
I'm a genetic freak, I'm 6'9" barefoot. Sometimes its awesome, other times it sucks.
Just be content with what you have, you can't change your bonestructure or skin color...
I might have been a bad ass in the stoneage, able to do battle with longer spears or something (LOL)
If your short, you won't be picking up tall hotty blondes
If your tall you won't be able to pick up those fine lookin petite asians.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Snow Plowman
Master Don Juan
Huge limiting beliefs
Everyone is capable of doing what the next man can do pickup wise. Saying a short kid can't get a tall girl is irrational and dumb because all those superfical excuses we come up with don't matter one bit.
I personally have a friend who is 5'4 that had a 6'2 girl all over him. I don't know 100% if he pulled or not but it is what it is.
The sky is the limit when it comes to this game. Everyone can get good to the point of having multiple women, 3somes, lays on first day, etc. It all just takes practice.
Everyone is capable of doing what the next man can do pickup wise. Saying a short kid can't get a tall girl is irrational and dumb because all those superfical excuses we come up with don't matter one bit.
I personally have a friend who is 5'4 that had a 6'2 girl all over him. I don't know 100% if he pulled or not but it is what it is.
The sky is the limit when it comes to this game. Everyone can get good to the point of having multiple women, 3somes, lays on first day, etc. It all just takes practice.