"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Gave her an ultimatum, she responds, what do i do now?
- Thread starter justsomeguy1984
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Chosen1
Master Don Juan
More to the point, she is not being the girlfriend YOU want her to be, so YOU should be the one moving on. Forget ultimatums, because the best you'll get from that is her spending time with you because she feels obligated.
Instead, I think you should open your options and look for another woman...a woman that is more suited to you and doesn't need to be pressured into spending time with you.
Comparing this situation to many other cases I've seen, your GF may be in a transitional period, where she is keeping her options open, but wants you as a back up.
Your relationship sounds pretty done to me. You sound like my buddy Supreme always talks about guys who get the girl, then become pansies and boring and then wonder why they lost their girlfriends to guys like him.
I will have to send him this post to see what advice he gives for you and maybe he will use it on his podcast.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
justsomeguy1984
Don Juan
My head is telling me that the right thing to do is dump her. But it is very hard to just suddenly end a relationship that I have invested so much time into (2 years) and also because this girl is hot as hell (9.8 or 9.9). LIke i said, one way or another I am going to get that ring back. We haven't talked about things yet. But we will.
NSUballer
Senior Don Juan
justsomeguy1984
Don Juan
Believe me, she is the queen of manipulation! But i know it is my own fault that it has come to this because I have allowed myself to be manipulated.NSUballer said:
As far as cheating goes, I'm about 99.9% sure that she hasn't cheated on me. I am friends with nearly all of her friends (both girlfriends and guy friends), and if she was doing something behind my back I'm sure that one of them would have tipped me off by now. But I'm not being naive about this either, I have been checking and asking around to make sure that nothing is going on.
NSUballer
Senior Don Juan
justsomeguy1984
Don Juan
Because I'm trying to learn from my AFC mistakes and not allow myself to be manipulated anymore.NSUballer said:
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
NSUballer
Senior Don Juan
Have her come over, **** her, take the ring off her finger when she's sleeping, and then end it the next morning.
Don't be taken for a chump and you don't owe this girl a diamond ring.
BTW - She's probably been ****ing hot guys when she has been out with her friends.