"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Gave her an ultimatum, she responds, what do i do now?
- Thread starter justsomeguy1984
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Chosen1
Master Don Juan
More to the point, she is not being the girlfriend YOU want her to be, so YOU should be the one moving on. Forget ultimatums, because the best you'll get from that is her spending time with you because she feels obligated.
Instead, I think you should open your options and look for another woman...a woman that is more suited to you and doesn't need to be pressured into spending time with you.
Comparing this situation to many other cases I've seen, your GF may be in a transitional period, where she is keeping her options open, but wants you as a back up.
Your relationship sounds pretty done to me. You sound like my buddy Supreme always talks about guys who get the girl, then become pansies and boring and then wonder why they lost their girlfriends to guys like him.
I will have to send him this post to see what advice he gives for you and maybe he will use it on his podcast.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
justsomeguy1984
Don Juan
My head is telling me that the right thing to do is dump her. But it is very hard to just suddenly end a relationship that I have invested so much time into (2 years) and also because this girl is hot as hell (9.8 or 9.9). LIke i said, one way or another I am going to get that ring back. We haven't talked about things yet. But we will.
NSUballer
Senior Don Juan
justsomeguy1984
Don Juan
Believe me, she is the queen of manipulation! But i know it is my own fault that it has come to this because I have allowed myself to be manipulated.NSUballer said:
As far as cheating goes, I'm about 99.9% sure that she hasn't cheated on me. I am friends with nearly all of her friends (both girlfriends and guy friends), and if she was doing something behind my back I'm sure that one of them would have tipped me off by now. But I'm not being naive about this either, I have been checking and asking around to make sure that nothing is going on.
NSUballer
Senior Don Juan
justsomeguy1984
Don Juan
Because I'm trying to learn from my AFC mistakes and not allow myself to be manipulated anymore.NSUballer said:
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
NSUballer
Senior Don Juan
Have her come over, **** her, take the ring off her finger when she's sleeping, and then end it the next morning.
Don't be taken for a chump and you don't owe this girl a diamond ring.
BTW - She's probably been ****ing hot guys when she has been out with her friends.