"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Gave her an ultimatum, she responds, what do i do now?

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She is trying to force you to breakup with her because she can't do it herself. Pull the trigger on the relationship and hook up with one of her friends.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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i would not give an ultamatium i would just leave f that asking her what do you think i would pack my stuff while she was at work and just leave and then she'll be on your nuts more but don't stop being friends with her i hate breaking up with somebody and not caring whether they lived or died and i also agree with francisco you won't get your ring back trust me
 
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It doesn't sound good dude, but it seems like your biggest problem is that you're hanging around waiting for her a lot. If she's out with friends and other people, you should be out with other people and living your life too.

More to the point, she is not being the girlfriend YOU want her to be, so YOU should be the one moving on. Forget ultimatums, because the best you'll get from that is her spending time with you because she feels obligated.

Instead, I think you should open your options and look for another woman...a woman that is more suited to you and doesn't need to be pressured into spending time with you.

Comparing this situation to many other cases I've seen, your GF may be in a transitional period, where she is keeping her options open, but wants you as a back up.
 
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I think she is looking for your replacement and keeping you on the side while she does. She doesn't want to be the one dumped and wants to do the dumping. It hurts getting dumped but feels good to do the dumping.

Your relationship sounds pretty done to me. You sound like my buddy Supreme always talks about guys who get the girl, then become pansies and boring and then wonder why they lost their girlfriends to guys like him.

I will have to send him this post to see what advice he gives for you and maybe he will use it on his podcast.
 
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What would I do?

1- Get that ring back. That would be my number 1 priority.

2- Might have one night a great sex. Not a big priority...but what the heck.

3- Dump her.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Wow, you guys are giving me some good advice here. I will let you guys know of any updates.

My head is telling me that the right thing to do is dump her. But it is very hard to just suddenly end a relationship that I have invested so much time into (2 years) and also because this girl is hot as hell (9.8 or 9.9). LIke i said, one way or another I am going to get that ring back. We haven't talked about things yet. But we will.
 
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Beautiful women know to manipulate people bc of their good looks. I know its hard to just say its over after 2 years but what if u take her back and she cheats on you (who's to say she hasnt already?) or breaks up with you???
 
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NSUballer said:
Beautiful women know to manipulate people bc of their good looks. I know its hard to just say its over after 2 years but what if u take her back and she cheats on you (who's to say she hasnt already?) or breaks up with you???
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Believe me, she is the queen of manipulation! But i know it is my own fault that it has come to this because I have allowed myself to be manipulated.

As far as cheating goes, I'm about 99.9% sure that she hasn't cheated on me. I am friends with nearly all of her friends (both girlfriends and guy friends), and if she was doing something behind my back I'm sure that one of them would have tipped me off by now. But I'm not being naive about this either, I have been checking and asking around to make sure that nothing is going on.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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CraigMack said:
I think she is looking for your replacement and keeping you on the side while she does. She doesn't want to be the one dumped and wants to do the dumping. It hurts getting dumped but feels good to do the dumping.

Your relationship sounds pretty done to me. You sound like my buddy Supreme always talks about guys who get the girl, then become pansies and boring and then wonder why they lost their girlfriends to guys like him.

I will have to send him this post to see what advice he gives for you and maybe he will use it on his podcast.
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Do not go listen to that podcast, you will not like what you hear. Forget I ever mentioned it.
 
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I seriously doubt she'll give it back either. She sounds like a gold diggger and has NO respect for you. She's just using you, and she knows it. She has all the power because she's a hot chick and you won't get any better than her. Once you break it up, that power of her's will go and any niceness she has will disappear and she won't do the honourable thing. She will say, you gave it to me, it was a gift and it's mine.

Have her come over, **** her, take the ring off her finger when she's sleeping, and then end it the next morning.

Don't be taken for a chump and you don't owe this girl a diamond ring.

BTW - She's probably been ****ing hot guys when she has been out with her friends.
 
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