"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Gated Communities

Deep Dish

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Gated communities, those without a guard standing at the gate, are security theater. The image of security is more important than actually doing anything to protect residents.

I once lived in a gated community which had a gate at one entrance but did not have a gate at the other entrance. The gate was constructed to stop thru traffic, but if you gate one entrance you might as well gate the other, or thieves can simply drive around.

What invariably happens with gated communities with no guard is that everybody lets each other in. If a car pulls up behind you as you drive through the gate, it's practically impossible to stop them from getting in. There are cars that will wait for you to pull up to the gate to sneak behind you.

I live in a gated.comminity now and it sure is a waste of money every time someone smashes into the gate.

Gated communities with an actual guard are not perfect, because if someone is determined enough they can find a way in, but it sure is more secure.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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SW15

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Some gated communities are not that good. Many apartments fall into this category. Few apartment communities actually do gating well. Gates are often non-functional, which annoys rent paying residents.
 

Divorced w 3

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Gated communities, those without a guard standing at the gate, are security theater. The image of security is more important than actually doing anything to protect residents.

I once lived in a gated community which had a gate at one entrance but did not have a gate at the other entrance. The gate was constructed to stop thru traffic, but if you gate one entrance you might as well gate the other, or thieves can simply drive around.

What invariably happens with gated communities with no guard is that everybody lets each other in. If a car pulls up behind you as you drive through the gate, it's practically impossible to stop them from getting in. There are cars that will wait for you to pull up to the gate to sneak behind you.

I live in a gated.comminity now and it sure is a waste of money every time someone smashes into the gate.

Gated communities with an actual guard are not perfect, because if someone is determined enough they can find a way in, but it sure is more secure.
Surround your community with alligators
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Millard Fillmore

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What is the purpose of a gated community?
I can't say for sure but to me it's just a status flex.

I had a friend in h.s. whose family moved into one. They were already wealthy-ish in a nice McMansion neighborhood but "moved on up" anyway to a posher one. The first (and only) time I visited him I had to be buzzed in from outside the gate, in my car. "How fukking stupid is this," I thought. I was maybe 18. Can think of much better things to spend that money on but to each his own.
 
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