"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Gated Communities

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Gated communities, those without a guard standing at the gate, are security theater. The image of security is more important than actually doing anything to protect residents.

I once lived in a gated community which had a gate at one entrance but did not have a gate at the other entrance. The gate was constructed to stop thru traffic, but if you gate one entrance you might as well gate the other, or thieves can simply drive around.

What invariably happens with gated communities with no guard is that everybody lets each other in. If a car pulls up behind you as you drive through the gate, it's practically impossible to stop them from getting in. There are cars that will wait for you to pull up to the gate to sneak behind you.

I live in a gated.comminity now and it sure is a waste of money every time someone smashes into the gate.

Gated communities with an actual guard are not perfect, because if someone is determined enough they can find a way in, but it sure is more secure.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Some gated communities are not that good. Many apartments fall into this category. Few apartment communities actually do gating well. Gates are often non-functional, which annoys rent paying residents.
 
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Deep Dish said:
Gated communities, those without a guard standing at the gate, are security theater. The image of security is more important than actually doing anything to protect residents.

I once lived in a gated community which had a gate at one entrance but did not have a gate at the other entrance. The gate was constructed to stop thru traffic, but if you gate one entrance you might as well gate the other, or thieves can simply drive around.

What invariably happens with gated communities with no guard is that everybody lets each other in. If a car pulls up behind you as you drive through the gate, it's practically impossible to stop them from getting in. There are cars that will wait for you to pull up to the gate to sneak behind you.

I live in a gated.comminity now and it sure is a waste of money every time someone smashes into the gate.

Gated communities with an actual guard are not perfect, because if someone is determined enough they can find a way in, but it sure is more secure.
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Surround your community with alligators
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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EyeBRollin said:
What is the purpose of a gated community?
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I can't say for sure but to me it's just a status flex.

I had a friend in h.s. whose family moved into one. They were already wealthy-ish in a nice McMansion neighborhood but "moved on up" anyway to a posher one. The first (and only) time I visited him I had to be buzzed in from outside the gate, in my car. "How fukking stupid is this," I thought. I was maybe 18. Can think of much better things to spend that money on but to each his own.
 
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