"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Gated Communities

Deep Dish

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Gated communities, those without a guard standing at the gate, are security theater. The image of security is more important than actually doing anything to protect residents.

I once lived in a gated community which had a gate at one entrance but did not have a gate at the other entrance. The gate was constructed to stop thru traffic, but if you gate one entrance you might as well gate the other, or thieves can simply drive around.

What invariably happens with gated communities with no guard is that everybody lets each other in. If a car pulls up behind you as you drive through the gate, it's practically impossible to stop them from getting in. There are cars that will wait for you to pull up to the gate to sneak behind you.

I live in a gated.comminity now and it sure is a waste of money every time someone smashes into the gate.

Gated communities with an actual guard are not perfect, because if someone is determined enough they can find a way in, but it sure is more secure.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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SW15

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Some gated communities are not that good. Many apartments fall into this category. Few apartment communities actually do gating well. Gates are often non-functional, which annoys rent paying residents.
 

Divorced w 3

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Gated communities, those without a guard standing at the gate, are security theater. The image of security is more important than actually doing anything to protect residents.

I once lived in a gated community which had a gate at one entrance but did not have a gate at the other entrance. The gate was constructed to stop thru traffic, but if you gate one entrance you might as well gate the other, or thieves can simply drive around.

What invariably happens with gated communities with no guard is that everybody lets each other in. If a car pulls up behind you as you drive through the gate, it's practically impossible to stop them from getting in. There are cars that will wait for you to pull up to the gate to sneak behind you.

I live in a gated.comminity now and it sure is a waste of money every time someone smashes into the gate.

Gated communities with an actual guard are not perfect, because if someone is determined enough they can find a way in, but it sure is more secure.
Surround your community with alligators
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Millard Fillmore

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What is the purpose of a gated community?
I can't say for sure but to me it's just a status flex.

I had a friend in h.s. whose family moved into one. They were already wealthy-ish in a nice McMansion neighborhood but "moved on up" anyway to a posher one. The first (and only) time I visited him I had to be buzzed in from outside the gate, in my car. "How fukking stupid is this," I thought. I was maybe 18. Can think of much better things to spend that money on but to each his own.
 
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