Gaming bartenders

[RazorRambo24]

That’s what is making me analyze the shyt out of this … I was the only one posted up at the bar upstairs, she’s sitting there two others working, I order food and a couple bud light bottles and keep my head down, stay quiet watching college basketball maintaining frame until the eager beaver college grad dude bartending just keeps chatting with me, so I start with the short sentences and meanwhile my target is getting drawn in, she’s watching, laughing etc moves closer etc you know how the rest goes. I usually have Batman level night game but I threw it out the window when I got going with her unfortunately

I wouldn't think too hard about it.. Gotta remind yourself no ***** is special. Bartender ***** is not an exception to that. Bartenders do this as I mentioned multiple times now. The thing is they now they can never fully just reject you or be rude to you because you're their business, their customer, they want you to come back to them.. Not only that, they are competing with other bartenders for tips.. They're adept at telling when a guy is into them. Infact, the fun of their job is flirting with guys.. With bartenders, you can't care. if she comes around to it, you can probably smash..

One thing I would do different is, ask for her number.. instead of give her yours. That stuff may work with girls who dont get much attention but a girl who gets alot of attention will never call you first.. She wants you to ask her number because its more confident and direct and shows that you want her more.

 

[Macadellic]

I use to frequent a casino to play poker tournaments. A c/cktail waitress would say hi to each other didn’t think much of it. One day she light up like a Christmas tree and jumped to give me a hug. This took about two months.

On that day I had a short stack in the tournament and left to get drinks with her as she was off from her shift. Two dates later we were f/cking that last several months which ended because I wouldn’t tell her where I lived at the time.

Plates spin themselves.
If she wants to f/ck you nothing and no one will stop her.

 

[corsica]

After I bang a girl a few times and the novelty wears, I don't even bother replying to her messages anymore. I don't waste time saying I'm not interested, I just ghost them. They get the message after a few days. It's not about getting even with women. It's to avoid unpleasant confrontation/conversation.

My point is:
Don't freight about being awkward. Unless she see you again at her work, she likely won't remember you. She probably have other suitors to think about.



I wouldn't call it a loss yet. She "rejected" you twice. I think that's enough for you to not give her any more validation. If you can, continue going to the venue with the presence of women. Be polite to the bartender but don't do any advances. If she tries to maintain or build sexual tension (flirting), you can say in a playful manner that you're not going to waste time pursuing wasteful endeavours. Phrase it the best way you can.

Since women change their minds all the time (specially when they're ovulating), she might be interested in you in a particular day. If that's the case, seize the opportunity.

 

[Divorced w 3]

After I bang a girl a few times and the novelty wears, I don't even bother replying to her messages anymore. I don't waste time saying I'm not interested, I just ghost them. They get the message after a few days. It's not about getting even with women. It's to avoid unpleasant confrontation/conversation.

My point is:
Don't freight about being awkward. Unless she see you again at her work, she likely won't remember you. She probably have other suitors to think about.



I wouldn't call it a loss yet. She "rejected" you twice. I think that's enough for you to not give her any more validation. If you can, continue going to the venue with the presence of women. Be polite to the bartender but don't do any advances. If she tries to maintain or build sexual tension (flirting), you can say in a playful manner that you're not going to waste time pursuing wasteful endeavours. Phrase it the best way you can.

Since women change their minds all the time (specially when they're ovulating), she might be interested in you in a particular day. If that's the case, seize the opportunity.

Yes! Validated! Kidding. The ideas you and I had recently are similar though. On one hand, I don’t plan on being in there until next weekend at the earliest. My plans coming up involve getting to the spa Friday , which has an infinity pool with a view of Manhattan behind it and then getting some shots in there for my instagram and having some interesting lifestyle bait. maybe I’ll pull some of my trademark early 20’s tail out of the usual joint and head over and parade it in front of my goth target and just play it cool. We’ll see how the weekend turns up.

 

[Divorced w 3]

So i put all of my powers and energy and resources of a major sales department into this and I had no luck. I did a search online and I got a number but it ended up being the sister. I told the sister how impressed I was with Megan and how she had a lot on her plate babysitting the passed out gay guy but I had the sister laughing and I said maybe it’s better we spoke you can put in a good word for me. But I had called from my office and realizing I had zero shot of a call back I texted the sister an hour later the following; Hey Kristen it’s d w 3. I was calling you from my office a little while ago, telling you impressive and pretty I thought your sister was. She seems like a texter (mouth covered emoji) so this is my cell. Throw in a good word for me Night!

probably not going to happen once she googles my name, sees my ex wife and the property we own together and / or even the kids lol ….vs incredibly good looking and partner at the worlds largest bank. Hypergamy you there? but hey. Worth a shot.

As if life wasn’t complicated enough, I decided to LinkedIn the girl I was lightly messing around with that evening in front of the girl i ultimately texted. She accepted and I didn’t go anywhere with it. Then, I open LinkedIn this morning and I have a view, from an actual LinkedIn Search, from a girl who is mutually connected which I assume is friends with both of them. Hmmmm

 

[bat soup]

Throw in some personal experience if you’ve got it.

The best way to date strippers is to hang around all day at their workplace telling them stories that demonstrate your "high value", whilst pretending that you're not there for them. They'll never guess the truth.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

The best way to date strippers is to hang around all day at their workplace telling them stories that demonstrate your "high value", whilst pretending that you're not there for them. They'll never guess the truth.

Lo and behold, you can even get paid for this too.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

The best way to date strippers is to hang around all day at their workplace telling them stories that demonstrate your "high value", whilst pretending that you're not there for them. They'll never guess the truth.

No, actually it's to either work at the club as a DJ or sell drugs to them.

 

[bat soup]

No, actually it's to either work at the club as a DJ or sell drugs to them.

Sell drugs, yes, good advice.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Sell drugs, yes, good advice.

I'm not suggesting you do it...just saying the drug dealers or the ones providing them with drugs are the ones they are usually banging