Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Drum&Bass said:Resources for survival trumps all !!! The man with the most resources or able to acquire resources will be the most desirable.
1.) Wealth / Resources
2.) Resourcefulness (ability to create or generate resources)
3.) Strength (ability to protect resources)
4.) Looks (the better the looks the more likely a person has access to resources)
5.) Personality
will be the order of importance when it comes to getting women.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
and then..Although the media loves to bombard us with stories of millionaires suddenly going bankrupt, the truth is that the majority of rich people have remained rich throughout this economic crisis.
I was reading an article the other day about how the number of billionaires is back up to what it was before the crisis.
I've found that the last really good time for dating for me was summer 2008, right as the economy was taking a huge dump. I don't know why, but since then the women have been less fun and more into LTRs. Less casual sex. 2009 and 2010 have only given me two new girls per year so far, not counting the mid- and long-term relps I'm in as well. I banged like 6 chicks in summer of 2008, it was a blast.Plinco said:So, say the western world is turned up side down by a massive economic depression, and men that had money now have nothing. How would the world of dating be different?
Kerpal said:One interesting thing I've noticed since things really started going down the tubes is the amount of attractive girls working ****ty jobs like fast food drive thrus and grocery store cashiers. I guess all the best jobs that the good looking girls get are drying up.
There have always been good looking girls in those positions, although they tend to be younger.One interesting thing I've noticed since things really started going down the tubes is the amount of attractive girls working ****ty jobs like fast food drive thrus and grocery store cashiers.
Read carefully. I never said that we should not believe the media. I said they like to BOMBARD us with stories about rich people suddenly becoming poor. It is true that many people who were once rich became poor, but that doesn't change the fact that the majority of rich people remained wealthy through this depression.Drum&Bass said:Ironic Lexington, how you tell us we shouldnt believe the media and then in your
closing statement you use the very same media to supplement your post.
and then..
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.