I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Drum&Bass said:Resources for survival trumps all !!! The man with the most resources or able to acquire resources will be the most desirable.
1.) Wealth / Resources
2.) Resourcefulness (ability to create or generate resources)
3.) Strength (ability to protect resources)
4.) Looks (the better the looks the more likely a person has access to resources)
5.) Personality
will be the order of importance when it comes to getting women.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
and then..Although the media loves to bombard us with stories of millionaires suddenly going bankrupt, the truth is that the majority of rich people have remained rich throughout this economic crisis.
I was reading an article the other day about how the number of billionaires is back up to what it was before the crisis.
I've found that the last really good time for dating for me was summer 2008, right as the economy was taking a huge dump. I don't know why, but since then the women have been less fun and more into LTRs. Less casual sex. 2009 and 2010 have only given me two new girls per year so far, not counting the mid- and long-term relps I'm in as well. I banged like 6 chicks in summer of 2008, it was a blast.Plinco said:So, say the western world is turned up side down by a massive economic depression, and men that had money now have nothing. How would the world of dating be different?
Kerpal said:One interesting thing I've noticed since things really started going down the tubes is the amount of attractive girls working ****ty jobs like fast food drive thrus and grocery store cashiers. I guess all the best jobs that the good looking girls get are drying up.
There have always been good looking girls in those positions, although they tend to be younger.One interesting thing I've noticed since things really started going down the tubes is the amount of attractive girls working ****ty jobs like fast food drive thrus and grocery store cashiers.
Read carefully. I never said that we should not believe the media. I said they like to BOMBARD us with stories about rich people suddenly becoming poor. It is true that many people who were once rich became poor, but that doesn't change the fact that the majority of rich people remained wealthy through this depression.Drum&Bass said:Ironic Lexington, how you tell us we shouldnt believe the media and then in your
closing statement you use the very same media to supplement your post.
and then..
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.