You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Drum&Bass said:Resources for survival trumps all !!! The man with the most resources or able to acquire resources will be the most desirable.
1.) Wealth / Resources
2.) Resourcefulness (ability to create or generate resources)
3.) Strength (ability to protect resources)
4.) Looks (the better the looks the more likely a person has access to resources)
5.) Personality
will be the order of importance when it comes to getting women.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
and then..Although the media loves to bombard us with stories of millionaires suddenly going bankrupt, the truth is that the majority of rich people have remained rich throughout this economic crisis.
I was reading an article the other day about how the number of billionaires is back up to what it was before the crisis.
I've found that the last really good time for dating for me was summer 2008, right as the economy was taking a huge dump. I don't know why, but since then the women have been less fun and more into LTRs. Less casual sex. 2009 and 2010 have only given me two new girls per year so far, not counting the mid- and long-term relps I'm in as well. I banged like 6 chicks in summer of 2008, it was a blast.Plinco said:So, say the western world is turned up side down by a massive economic depression, and men that had money now have nothing. How would the world of dating be different?
Kerpal said:One interesting thing I've noticed since things really started going down the tubes is the amount of attractive girls working ****ty jobs like fast food drive thrus and grocery store cashiers. I guess all the best jobs that the good looking girls get are drying up.
There have always been good looking girls in those positions, although they tend to be younger.One interesting thing I've noticed since things really started going down the tubes is the amount of attractive girls working ****ty jobs like fast food drive thrus and grocery store cashiers.
Read carefully. I never said that we should not believe the media. I said they like to BOMBARD us with stories about rich people suddenly becoming poor. It is true that many people who were once rich became poor, but that doesn't change the fact that the majority of rich people remained wealthy through this depression.Drum&Bass said:Ironic Lexington, how you tell us we shouldnt believe the media and then in your
closing statement you use the very same media to supplement your post.
and then..
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.