Game over.

[Rainman4707]

Met a woman for third time on sunday. (She gave me a handjob)
Her Interest level seemed high between date 2 & 3. She was texting me a lot.
She did'nt text much after our 3rd date..
Anyway we scheduled to meet tomorrow night. I texted her tonight to arrange time, place etc & she said :-

Her - "Hey, i'm not sure about tomorrow. I know it's only been 3 dates/meets we met but i think i should be feel more and theres so much disatnce between us. x

Me - ok x

Her :- ? x

I decided to ring her because easier to discuss over phone. She was asking "what should we do? I told her that if she is'nt "feeling it" then it's upto her to decide what she wants to do. She told me that maybe it's just because she is stressed with work & that i have'nt texted her.

Looks like it could be game over for me on this one. Things seemed to be going so well too

 

[Billtx49]

She flaked, you left it up to her and she gave you a bs excuse. Think about moving on combined with NC…

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Met a woman for third time on sunday. (She gave me a handjob)
Her Interest level seemed high between date 2 & 3. She was texting me a lot.
She did'nt text much after our 3rd date..
Anyway we scheduled to meet tomorrow night. I texted her tonight to arrange time, place etc & she said :-

Her - "Hey, i'm not sure about tomorrow. I know it's only been 3 dates/meets we met but i think i should be feel more and theres so much disatnce between us. x

Me - ok x

Her :- ? x

I decided to ring her because easier to discuss over phone. She was asking "what should we do? I told her that if she is'nt "feeling it" then it's upto her to decide what she wants to do. She told me that maybe it's just because she is stressed with work & that i have'nt texted her.

Looks like it could be game over for me on this one. Things seemed to be going so well too

Next. Thank her for being honest.

 

[RickTheToad]

When she asked you what you guys should do, and you still wanted to explore her, you should had let's meet up for drinks and spend some time together. You cannot build rapport or attraction thru text. ITF, if you want to keep a lady around, but do not hear from her, just send a random text I hope you are having a great day.

That's it.

 

[Rainman4707]

Next. Thank her for being honest.

Yeah she seems a canny a canny lass.

 

[sazc]

She was trying to get you to open up about defining the relationship.

From what you posted, and what you posted that she said, apparently you didn't text/attempt to get to know her in between your dates? Then she gives you a hand job, probably thinking it will spur you to pay her more attention, but the quantity of attention between dates remained the same, and she didn't want to get herself in the position of getting physical again on your next date, so that you could continue to not give her the attention she wanted.

She probably likes you but feels your not investing therefore you're not interested in her, just the physical

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

Things seemed to be going so well too

You got a consolation handy. She was already thinking about it.

 

[Rainman4707]

She was trying to get you to open up about defining the relationship.

From what you posted, and what you posted that she said, apparently you didn't text/attempt to get to know her in between your dates? Then she gives you a hand job, probably thinking it will spur you to pay her more attention, but the quantity of attention between dates remained the same, and she didn't want to get herself in the position of getting physical again on your next date, so that you could continue to not give her the attention she wanted.

She probably likes you but feels your not investing therefore you're not interested in her, just the physical

Thanks for your reply. Appreciated. Well, i gave her a phonecall day after our 3rd date. We chatted. Maybe i came across to keen because i offered to come up that night for an hour or so & i also mentioned that i was free sunday as well as seeing her friday night. She said she could do friday as we had arranged, but not monday & she wasnt sure about sunday. She sent me a text later saying she had enjoyed our chat & that she could feel a cold/flu coming on.

She mentioned tonight that i play my cards very close to my chest & dont reveal much.
The whole "getting to know" each other by text is exactly what most people advise against! I rang her monday & i sent her a text on tuesday.

Opinions on this thread seem 50/50.
My opinion is she has low interest.
I'm tempted to text her saying that i will drive up to hers tonight. Maybe a fool for thinking this way, but maybe it's better to talk with her rather than just leaving it. Maybe her attraction will rise with another meetup. I doubt it though.

Everything seemed to be going very well until we "made out" maybe she sensed something that put her off me. VERY common in the dating game. That's why some women hold off on the sex, so it dose'nt spoil things. We did'nt have sex, (she was on period) but we got naked & rolled about for a few hours, touchy feely.

 

[wifehunter]

She probably likes you but feels your not investing therefore you're not interested in her, just the physical

One of the many pitfalls of dating. Communication breaks down, when the playing field is unbalanced. Navigating rocky waters, is not fun.

 

[Rainman4707]

Just send her a whattsapp saying "I can see you tonight, spend some time together."

 

[Bullbearpig]

Send her a poem expressing your undying love. Tell her you'll get suicidal if she doesn't want a relationship. That should do the trick, but if it doesn't then tell her you'll hurt her family if she leaves.

 

[HankHill]

Send her a poem expressing your undying love. Tell her you'll get suicidal if she doesn't want a relationship. That should do the trick, but if it doesn't then tell her you'll hurt her family if she leaves.

LOL!

Dude, you should've just said "Really? I'm sorry you feel that way, personally I was interested in seeing where this goes. Oh well, hey, if you change your mind give me a call!"

 

[touma.akagi]

Send her a poem expressing your undying love. Tell her you'll get suicidal if she doesn't want a relationship. That should do the trick, but if it doesn't then tell her you'll hurt her family if she leaves.

And be sure to stab yourself on FaceTime and cry while rapidly running a CD or bottle opening up and down your tiny shaft.

 

[RangerMIke]

@Rainman4707 What do you want?

 

[sosousage]

Met a woman for third time on sunday. (She gave me a handjob)
Her Interest level seemed high between date 2 & 3. She was texting me a lot.
She did'nt text much after our 3rd date..
Anyway we scheduled to meet tomorrow night. I texted her tonight to arrange time, place etc & she said :-

Her - "Hey, i'm not sure about tomorrow. I know it's only been 3 dates/meets we met but i think i should be feel more and theres so much disatnce between us. x

Me - ok x

Her :- ? x

I decided to ring her because easier to discuss over phone. She was asking "what should we do? I told her that if she is'nt "feeling it" then it's upto her to decide what she wants to do. She told me that maybe it's just because she is stressed with work & that i have'nt texted her.

Looks like it could be game over for me on this one. Things seemed to be going so well too

So she needed 3 dates to decide ur not her type? Lmao bs, she knew it before

 

[Rainman4707]

And be sure to stab yourself on FaceTime and cry while rapidly running a CD or bottle opening up and down your tiny shaft.

Have'nt had a chance to actually think about that. Some people don't truly know what they want.

I'm a quiet & laid back man. A deep thinker. I'm not much of a party animal.
I think i want a relationship & kids. I'd rather be settled with a loyal woman. The typical family home rather than shagging a HB9 every week.

 

[Rainman4707]

@Rainman4707 What do you want?

Have'nt had a chance to actually think about that. Some people don't truly know what they want.

I'm a quiet & laid back man. A deep thinker. I'm not much of a party animal.
I think i want a relationship & kids. I'd rather be settled with a loyal woman. The typical family home rather than shagging a HB9 every week.

 

[Rainman4707]

Have'nt had a chance to actually think about that. Some people don't truly know what they want.

I'm a quiet & laid back man. A deep thinker. I'm not much of a party animal.
I think i want a relationship & kids. I'd rather be settled with a loyal woman. The typical family home rather than shagging a HB9 every week.

Sorry, that was meant for Ranger Mike.

 

[RangerMIke]

Have'nt had a chance to actually think about that. Some people don't truly know what they want.

I'm a quiet & laid back man. A deep thinker. I'm not much of a party animal.
I think i want a relationship & kids. I'd rather be settled with a loyal woman. The typical family home rather than shagging a HB9 every week.

If you are looking for a relationship... when a chick says she's just not feeling it, all you say is "Chemistry is what it is." Wish her luck finding mister tingles and move on. Don't take it personal because it's not about you. Put your effort into chicks that what you. You will NEVER be able to make a relationship work with a chick that isn't attracted to you from the start. The best you can hope for is that she settles for you... but she'll always be looking for Mr. Tingles.

If you really aren't looking for a relationship then you can flip her into a fvck buddy by just being okay with how she feels, just tell her "Well.. while you are looking for Mr. Right I'm okay with being Mr. Right now." Then see what she does with that.

 

[MatureDJ]

Met a woman for third time on sunday. (She gave me a handjob)
Her Interest level seemed high between date 2 & 3. She was texting me a lot.
She did'nt text much after our 3rd date..
Anyway we scheduled to meet tomorrow night. I texted her tonight to arrange time, place etc & she said :-

Her - "Hey, i'm not sure about tomorrow. I know it's only been 3 dates/meets we met but i think i should be feel more and theres so much disatnce between us. x

Me - ok x

Her :- ? x

I decided to ring her because easier to discuss over phone. She was asking "what should we do? I told her that if she is'nt "feeling it" then it's upto her to decide what she wants to do. She told me that maybe it's just because she is stressed with work & that i have'nt texted her.

Looks like it could be game over for me on this one. Things seemed to be going so well too

An economist would say that there is an infinite supply of men who would be interested in a free handjob.