You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
my club game sucks... all of these are from daygameSharinganUser said:DId you meet them in a club? None of the club women I've met in China wanted to get serious.
Fu'ck yeah, bro. Club game is whole other animal.dj_china said:my club game sucks... all of these are from daygame
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
dj_china said:my club game sucks... all of these are from daygame
wow mongolian pole dancer. must've been smokin hahaSharinganUser said:I don't speak Chinese so I only game at night. My buddy slept with a mongolian pole dancer and she wanted to bring him to mongolia to meet his parents so she could save face about being divorced. I don't think most chinese women want to be in a relationship to be in love, most of them want it so they have some security and money coming in.
dj_china said:wow mongolian pole dancer. must've been smokin haha
I think I'm a little more charitable to the chinese... definitely there are gold diggers, but I think the ones who want to be in a relationship -- its not because they want to be in love, but just want to be "in a relationship"
that in itself is kindof like a status thing in China
a lot of girls I know are in long distance relationships for months at a time. kindof sucks, but hey, you get to say "I have a boyfriend" and I think that's what drives them a lot of the time. cultural differences. ugh
haha ok i was trying to social proof you there but i guess not...:moon:SharinganUser said:Just about every woman I've met has a BF or a husband even. That doesn't mean they aren't available. Most of the women will up grade in a heart beat if it means more money, more security, ect...
And the pole dancer wasn't that hot.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.