"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
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my club game sucks... all of these are from daygameSharinganUser said:DId you meet them in a club? None of the club women I've met in China wanted to get serious.
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Fu'ck yeah, bro. Club game is whole other animal.dj_china said:my club game sucks... all of these are from daygame
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
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dj_china said:my club game sucks... all of these are from daygame
I don't speak Chinese so I only game at night. My buddy slept with a mongolian pole dancer and she wanted to bring him to mongolia to meet his parents so she could save face about being divorced. I don't think most chinese women want to be in a relationship to be in love, most of them want it so they have some security and money coming in.
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I didn't have this issue, in spite of the fact that a couple were pretty conservative or introverted in the beginning. Maybe because they knew I was in China for only one month or because there emotions were running high at the time (My party = instant social status).
Just keep on sarging bro!! You're doing pretty well already :rockon:
wow mongolian pole dancer. must've been smokin hahaSharinganUser said:I don't speak Chinese so I only game at night. My buddy slept with a mongolian pole dancer and she wanted to bring him to mongolia to meet his parents so she could save face about being divorced. I don't think most chinese women want to be in a relationship to be in love, most of them want it so they have some security and money coming in.
I think I'm a little more charitable to the chinese... definitely there are gold diggers, but I think the ones who want to be in a relationship -- its not because they want to be in love, but just want to be "in a relationship"
that in itself is kindof like a status thing in China
a lot of girls I know are in long distance relationships for months at a time. kindof sucks, but hey, you get to say "I have a boyfriend" and I think that's what drives them a lot of the time. cultural differences. ugh
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dj_china said:wow mongolian pole dancer. must've been smokin haha
I think I'm a little more charitable to the chinese... definitely there are gold diggers, but I think the ones who want to be in a relationship -- its not because they want to be in love, but just want to be "in a relationship"
that in itself is kindof like a status thing in China
a lot of girls I know are in long distance relationships for months at a time. kindof sucks, but hey, you get to say "I have a boyfriend" and I think that's what drives them a lot of the time. cultural differences. ugh
Just about every woman I've met has a BF or a husband even. That doesn't mean they aren't available. Most of the women will up grade in a heart beat if it means more money, more security, ect...
And the pole dancer wasn't that hot.
haha ok i was trying to social proof you there but i guess not...:moon:SharinganUser said:Just about every woman I've met has a BF or a husband even. That doesn't mean they aren't available. Most of the women will up grade in a heart beat if it means more money, more security, ect...
And the pole dancer wasn't that hot.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.