i need advice on this one this is a spot i've been in before im in a what was a good relationship till last night her friend said someone told my gf i dont like her now i do like her and i wonna keep her but she seems to believe this other person b/c shes been acting like she doesn't wonna talk to in fact we had plans for tn which are pretty much dead i've told her what this person said is b/s but i wonna know how to keep her hte other thing is she wont tell who this person is
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
nubian-knight
Don Juan
Don't understand what your trying to say lol
DonGorgon
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IT SEEMS COMPLICATED TO YOU BUT SIMPLY The vail is no longer over your girl's eyes i.e. she is not in love with you anymore AND is now finding reasons to leave... The odd details are just symantics.... YOU NEED TO DUMP HER NOW BEFORE SHE DUMPS YOU TOMORROW.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
nubian-knight
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if your gf really believes that her friend said u don't like he and is that easily convinced i don't think shes worth pursuing cuz if something based on nothing like that is causing problems already i don't see u 2 working out
so in order words tell her PEACE OUT
so in order words tell her PEACE OUT
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^^^She has started the break up process.. and probably has the next dude lined up..
i dont know wtf is goin right now the relationship relatively new and the **** only started last night and im not ready to abondon ship yet she wants to dump me thats fine but i cant leave myself without atleast doing something to try and make it right b/c shes alot of fun if u no wat i mean
nubian-knight
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hell695 said:i dont know wtf is goin right now the relationship relatively new and the **** only started last night and im not ready to abondon ship yet she wants to dump me thats fine but i cant leave myself without atleast doing something to try and make it right b/c shes alot of fun if u no wat i mean
talk to her n try n get her to open up
tell her u think u 2 can be good n make it clear u wana work it out
also make it clear ur not sticking around if she keeps being a indesicive nuisance
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.