i need advice on this one this is a spot i've been in before im in a what was a good relationship till last night her friend said someone told my gf i dont like her now i do like her and i wonna keep her but she seems to believe this other person b/c shes been acting like she doesn't wonna talk to in fact we had plans for tn which are pretty much dead i've told her what this person said is b/s but i wonna know how to keep her hte other thing is she wont tell who this person is
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
nubian-knight
Don Juan
Don't understand what your trying to say lol
DonGorgon
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IT SEEMS COMPLICATED TO YOU BUT SIMPLY The vail is no longer over your girl's eyes i.e. she is not in love with you anymore AND is now finding reasons to leave... The odd details are just symantics.... YOU NEED TO DUMP HER NOW BEFORE SHE DUMPS YOU TOMORROW.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
nubian-knight
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if your gf really believes that her friend said u don't like he and is that easily convinced i don't think shes worth pursuing cuz if something based on nothing like that is causing problems already i don't see u 2 working out
so in order words tell her PEACE OUT
so in order words tell her PEACE OUT
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^^^She has started the break up process.. and probably has the next dude lined up..
i dont know wtf is goin right now the relationship relatively new and the **** only started last night and im not ready to abondon ship yet she wants to dump me thats fine but i cant leave myself without atleast doing something to try and make it right b/c shes alot of fun if u no wat i mean
nubian-knight
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hell695 said:i dont know wtf is goin right now the relationship relatively new and the **** only started last night and im not ready to abondon ship yet she wants to dump me thats fine but i cant leave myself without atleast doing something to try and make it right b/c shes alot of fun if u no wat i mean
talk to her n try n get her to open up
tell her u think u 2 can be good n make it clear u wana work it out
also make it clear ur not sticking around if she keeps being a indesicive nuisance
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.