franchise21
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simple question.... the pros and cons of being fuddies.... really considering just being fuddies with this one chick....
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
fuddies (f*** buddies)
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
franchise21
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well ok the reason i ask....im a high school student and i will be leaving for a foreign exchange at the end of july...so i really do not want to get into a serious relationship...
L777
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TheEdgeOf said:
I don't think you get to comment on moral values at 17. Do you have experience in this field from which to draw from?The pros are: sex. No need to go on dates etc. No commitmant, no responsibilities.
The cons are; One of you may get too attached. I don't get attached easily at all. and invariably the girl like me more than I like her, so I often have to gently remind her that I'm seeing other women and can't be their b/f. They're usually a little upset but accepting. Just be nice to them, be friends with them, and be good in bed, and you'll be fine.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Rhoto
Master Don Juan
No.TheEdgeOf said:
Fuddies? I think I'll steal that.
Pros = Sex (of course), You may look less desperate to other women because you know you can get sex whenever, if you're bored one night and just wanna chill at the house and watch movies and have sex then it's always available.
Cons = She may get too attached and start expecting things from you that you aren't willing to do. Other than that, I absolutely love the fvck buddy relationship. Just make sure you treat her with respect and like you would any other friend (other than the sex of course.)
Pros = Sex (of course), You may look less desperate to other women because you know you can get sex whenever, if you're bored one night and just wanna chill at the house and watch movies and have sex then it's always available.
Cons = She may get too attached and start expecting things from you that you aren't willing to do. Other than that, I absolutely love the fvck buddy relationship. Just make sure you treat her with respect and like you would any other friend (other than the sex of course.)
A con I would add is the STD factor. Be careful! If a woman is that liberal in her actions, it's possible that you're one of maybe many. It's disturbing but i would suggest to wear protection and to not get any emotions (like that feeling of how you too have so much fun together even when not having sex and can have great conversations). Good luck and enjoy, f*ck buddies are sometimes great but don't let them distract you from the rest of your life.
Wow Bussey, you're a real life tool, here on display for everyone to see if they've ever wondered what one sounds like.
Wow Bussey, you're a real life tool, here on display for everyone to see if they've ever wondered what one sounds like.
franchise21
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thanks for the advice it gives me a littel bit to think about
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.