"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Hi guys, I was seeing a HB7 for about 3 months & well she found out I was texting/chatting & arranging dates with other women so she dumped me saying that I was a really nice lad & thought of me more as a friend.

I acted a total WUSSY trying to get her back as I felt REALLY guilty. I know I shouldn't feel guilty, but I did. Anyway I was telling her that I would change & do anything for her & that I don't deserve her....that I'm hurting....will she give me one last chance.

Is there anyway to claw a little dignity back in these situations?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I think she did that as an ego protection maneuver more than anything else.
 

IndeedSir

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Ouch. In my experience, probably not much you can do. That will have killed a lot of attraction.
 

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Reading that was like watching a skateboarder rack his balls on a railing...OH MY GOD!!!!!!!!!!
 

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Vice said:
I think she did that as an ego protection maneuver more than anything else.
Don't know what else I can do! I've told her I will never cheat on her & that I'm sorry etc.etc.

Anyway I thought this (me spinning plates) would dial her attraction up for me HaHaHa not land me in the friendzone LoL
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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If you've said you're sorry. Just leave it at that and walk away. Salvage what dignity you have left in front of your eyes and seek other women.
 

IndeedSir

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Rainman4707 said:
Don't know what else I can do! I've told her I will never cheat on her & that I'm sorry etc.etc.

Anyway I thought this (me spinning plates) would dial her attraction up for me HaHaHa not land me in the friendzone LoL
Only if she knows your frame and you're not exclusive. If you didn't set it up at the start and two months into seeing her you just casually drop you're seeing other girls, probably not going to go down too well if she has any self respect. It's great at the start when there is no social commitment to not seeing other people as it sets you up as the prize to be one.
 

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IndeedSir said:
Only if she knows your frame and you're not exclusive. If you didn't set it up at the start and two months into seeing her you just casually drop you're seeing other girls, probably not going to go down too well if she has any self respect. It's great at the start when there is no social commitment to not seeing other people as it sets you up as the prize to be one.

Yeah if you read my previous thread "commitment/crucial step" the guys were advising me to spin plates!
Of course I take full responsibility, my choices, my actions, & my behaviour!
 

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Rainman4707 said:
Don't know what else I can do! I've told her I will never cheat on her & that I'm sorry etc.etc.

Anyway I thought this (me spinning plates) would dial her attraction up for me HaHaHa not land me in the friendzone LoL
So in other words you begged? No there is nothing you can do but move on. She is already hopping on the next c0ck in line.

What you should have done is not give a f/ck, tell her to go because you have other plans, and within a week of ignoring her you call her to go out, and you would have been tapping her most likely. That is not possible now.

MAYBE if you ignore her for 2 or 3 weeks but my god stop contacting her.
 

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Clarity is hard to notice and act from when weakness clouds your reasoning and perspective. Take a moment to let the water clear, kicking up more seddlement isn't helpful.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Rainman4707 said:
Yeah if you read my previous thread "commitment/crucial step" the guys were advising me to spin plates!
Of course I take full responsibility, my choices, my actions, & my behaviour!

thing is are you 2 serious or just casual dating? if not serious you should toss to her the but we are nothing serious or exclusive, then again after the crying begging and all that well.... good thing you still ahve options, right?
 

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Don't feel bad man. I literally shot a steady 8 to SHVT this weekend by taking another plate home right in front of her. The 8 came to my joint and was ready to kick the other's ass...

Now? The new one is being a flaky bivtch and the old one has totally BLOCKED me on FB.

God. It happens man. Some times you need to go through lean times. Im down to like 2 maybe three that i can spin up. Not good, but at least it gives me more time to work on me. Look to the good.

Learn from it.
 

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Yeah I'm just going to move on.
 

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I agree, move on man. Take it as a learning experience. If you're not going to communicate to the woman that you're not exclusive, and then she finds out you have side dishes, it's gonna blow up in your face.

I have a buddy who lets all his girls know he's seeing other people and it works out really well for him. They don't like hearing it at first but the fact that he gives off this confidence like, "This is what I do, take it or leave it," actually makes them more attracted to him.

Just don't be surprised when they're messing around with other dudes if you choose to go this route.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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