"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Fuc*ed up big style!!

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Hi guys, I was seeing a HB7 for about 3 months & well she found out I was texting/chatting & arranging dates with other women so she dumped me saying that I was a really nice lad & thought of me more as a friend.

I acted a total WUSSY trying to get her back as I felt REALLY guilty. I know I shouldn't feel guilty, but I did. Anyway I was telling her that I would change & do anything for her & that I don't deserve her....that I'm hurting....will she give me one last chance.

Is there anyway to claw a little dignity back in these situations?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I think she did that as an ego protection maneuver more than anything else.
 

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Ouch. In my experience, probably not much you can do. That will have killed a lot of attraction.
 

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Reading that was like watching a skateboarder rack his balls on a railing...OH MY GOD!!!!!!!!!!
 

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Vice said:
I think she did that as an ego protection maneuver more than anything else.
Don't know what else I can do! I've told her I will never cheat on her & that I'm sorry etc.etc.

Anyway I thought this (me spinning plates) would dial her attraction up for me HaHaHa not land me in the friendzone LoL
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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If you've said you're sorry. Just leave it at that and walk away. Salvage what dignity you have left in front of your eyes and seek other women.
 

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Rainman4707 said:
Don't know what else I can do! I've told her I will never cheat on her & that I'm sorry etc.etc.

Anyway I thought this (me spinning plates) would dial her attraction up for me HaHaHa not land me in the friendzone LoL
Only if she knows your frame and you're not exclusive. If you didn't set it up at the start and two months into seeing her you just casually drop you're seeing other girls, probably not going to go down too well if she has any self respect. It's great at the start when there is no social commitment to not seeing other people as it sets you up as the prize to be one.
 

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IndeedSir said:
Only if she knows your frame and you're not exclusive. If you didn't set it up at the start and two months into seeing her you just casually drop you're seeing other girls, probably not going to go down too well if she has any self respect. It's great at the start when there is no social commitment to not seeing other people as it sets you up as the prize to be one.

Yeah if you read my previous thread "commitment/crucial step" the guys were advising me to spin plates!
Of course I take full responsibility, my choices, my actions, & my behaviour!
 

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Rainman4707 said:
Don't know what else I can do! I've told her I will never cheat on her & that I'm sorry etc.etc.

Anyway I thought this (me spinning plates) would dial her attraction up for me HaHaHa not land me in the friendzone LoL
So in other words you begged? No there is nothing you can do but move on. She is already hopping on the next c0ck in line.

What you should have done is not give a f/ck, tell her to go because you have other plans, and within a week of ignoring her you call her to go out, and you would have been tapping her most likely. That is not possible now.

MAYBE if you ignore her for 2 or 3 weeks but my god stop contacting her.
 

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Clarity is hard to notice and act from when weakness clouds your reasoning and perspective. Take a moment to let the water clear, kicking up more seddlement isn't helpful.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Rainman4707 said:
Yeah if you read my previous thread "commitment/crucial step" the guys were advising me to spin plates!
Of course I take full responsibility, my choices, my actions, & my behaviour!

thing is are you 2 serious or just casual dating? if not serious you should toss to her the but we are nothing serious or exclusive, then again after the crying begging and all that well.... good thing you still ahve options, right?
 

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Don't feel bad man. I literally shot a steady 8 to SHVT this weekend by taking another plate home right in front of her. The 8 came to my joint and was ready to kick the other's ass...

Now? The new one is being a flaky bivtch and the old one has totally BLOCKED me on FB.

God. It happens man. Some times you need to go through lean times. Im down to like 2 maybe three that i can spin up. Not good, but at least it gives me more time to work on me. Look to the good.

Learn from it.
 

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Yeah I'm just going to move on.
 

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I agree, move on man. Take it as a learning experience. If you're not going to communicate to the woman that you're not exclusive, and then she finds out you have side dishes, it's gonna blow up in your face.

I have a buddy who lets all his girls know he's seeing other people and it works out really well for him. They don't like hearing it at first but the fact that he gives off this confidence like, "This is what I do, take it or leave it," actually makes them more attracted to him.

Just don't be surprised when they're messing around with other dudes if you choose to go this route.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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