Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Rainman4707

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Hi guys, I was seeing a HB7 for about 3 months & well she found out I was texting/chatting & arranging dates with other women so she dumped me saying that I was a really nice lad & thought of me more as a friend.

I acted a total WUSSY trying to get her back as I felt REALLY guilty. I know I shouldn't feel guilty, but I did. Anyway I was telling her that I would change & do anything for her & that I don't deserve her....that I'm hurting....will she give me one last chance.

Is there anyway to claw a little dignity back in these situations?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I think she did that as an ego protection maneuver more than anything else.
 

IndeedSir

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Ouch. In my experience, probably not much you can do. That will have killed a lot of attraction.
 

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Reading that was like watching a skateboarder rack his balls on a railing...OH MY GOD!!!!!!!!!!
 

Rainman4707

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Vice said:
I think she did that as an ego protection maneuver more than anything else.
Don't know what else I can do! I've told her I will never cheat on her & that I'm sorry etc.etc.

Anyway I thought this (me spinning plates) would dial her attraction up for me HaHaHa not land me in the friendzone LoL
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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If you've said you're sorry. Just leave it at that and walk away. Salvage what dignity you have left in front of your eyes and seek other women.
 

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Rainman4707 said:
Don't know what else I can do! I've told her I will never cheat on her & that I'm sorry etc.etc.

Anyway I thought this (me spinning plates) would dial her attraction up for me HaHaHa not land me in the friendzone LoL
Only if she knows your frame and you're not exclusive. If you didn't set it up at the start and two months into seeing her you just casually drop you're seeing other girls, probably not going to go down too well if she has any self respect. It's great at the start when there is no social commitment to not seeing other people as it sets you up as the prize to be one.
 

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IndeedSir said:
Only if she knows your frame and you're not exclusive. If you didn't set it up at the start and two months into seeing her you just casually drop you're seeing other girls, probably not going to go down too well if she has any self respect. It's great at the start when there is no social commitment to not seeing other people as it sets you up as the prize to be one.

Yeah if you read my previous thread "commitment/crucial step" the guys were advising me to spin plates!
Of course I take full responsibility, my choices, my actions, & my behaviour!
 

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Rainman4707 said:
Don't know what else I can do! I've told her I will never cheat on her & that I'm sorry etc.etc.

Anyway I thought this (me spinning plates) would dial her attraction up for me HaHaHa not land me in the friendzone LoL
So in other words you begged? No there is nothing you can do but move on. She is already hopping on the next c0ck in line.

What you should have done is not give a f/ck, tell her to go because you have other plans, and within a week of ignoring her you call her to go out, and you would have been tapping her most likely. That is not possible now.

MAYBE if you ignore her for 2 or 3 weeks but my god stop contacting her.
 

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Clarity is hard to notice and act from when weakness clouds your reasoning and perspective. Take a moment to let the water clear, kicking up more seddlement isn't helpful.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Rainman4707 said:
Yeah if you read my previous thread "commitment/crucial step" the guys were advising me to spin plates!
Of course I take full responsibility, my choices, my actions, & my behaviour!

thing is are you 2 serious or just casual dating? if not serious you should toss to her the but we are nothing serious or exclusive, then again after the crying begging and all that well.... good thing you still ahve options, right?
 

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Don't feel bad man. I literally shot a steady 8 to SHVT this weekend by taking another plate home right in front of her. The 8 came to my joint and was ready to kick the other's ass...

Now? The new one is being a flaky bivtch and the old one has totally BLOCKED me on FB.

God. It happens man. Some times you need to go through lean times. Im down to like 2 maybe three that i can spin up. Not good, but at least it gives me more time to work on me. Look to the good.

Learn from it.
 

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Yeah I'm just going to move on.
 

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I agree, move on man. Take it as a learning experience. If you're not going to communicate to the woman that you're not exclusive, and then she finds out you have side dishes, it's gonna blow up in your face.

I have a buddy who lets all his girls know he's seeing other people and it works out really well for him. They don't like hearing it at first but the fact that he gives off this confidence like, "This is what I do, take it or leave it," actually makes them more attracted to him.

Just don't be surprised when they're messing around with other dudes if you choose to go this route.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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