"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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froze up in grocery store

wiggadude

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I went to the grocery store, all set to get at least one number.

There was one girl I passed at least 5 times with my shopping cart. Each time I told myself, ok NOW I'm going to talk to her.

But each time I wussed out cuz I didn't know what to say.

How the FVCK can I fix this?? I was going to say something like "Hey, I keep running into you", but after that, I wouldn't know how to create a conversation.

AARGH!!!! Any advice fellow DJ's? :mad:
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Broham

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Hey I keep running into you. Are you stalking me or something? (all done with a smile) If she smiles back you're in.
 

wiggadude

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Haha, thanks that's pretty good.

Originally posted by Broham
Hey I keep running into you. Are you stalking me or something? (all done with a smile) If she smiles back you're in.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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Originally posted by Broham
Hey I keep running into you. Are you stalking me or something? (all done with a smile) If she smiles back you're in.
So what would you say next? There are so many threads about guys that spend so much time coming up with the perfect opening line but they never prepare what to say next.

Guys, you need to work on you conversation skills and not memorizing just an opening line.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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