"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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froze up in grocery store

wiggadude

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I went to the grocery store, all set to get at least one number.

There was one girl I passed at least 5 times with my shopping cart. Each time I told myself, ok NOW I'm going to talk to her.

But each time I wussed out cuz I didn't know what to say.

How the FVCK can I fix this?? I was going to say something like "Hey, I keep running into you", but after that, I wouldn't know how to create a conversation.

AARGH!!!! Any advice fellow DJ's? :mad:
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Broham

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Hey I keep running into you. Are you stalking me or something? (all done with a smile) If she smiles back you're in.
 

wiggadude

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Haha, thanks that's pretty good.

Originally posted by Broham
Hey I keep running into you. Are you stalking me or something? (all done with a smile) If she smiles back you're in.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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Originally posted by Broham
Hey I keep running into you. Are you stalking me or something? (all done with a smile) If she smiles back you're in.
So what would you say next? There are so many threads about guys that spend so much time coming up with the perfect opening line but they never prepare what to say next.

Guys, you need to work on you conversation skills and not memorizing just an opening line.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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