"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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froze up in grocery store

wiggadude

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I went to the grocery store, all set to get at least one number.

There was one girl I passed at least 5 times with my shopping cart. Each time I told myself, ok NOW I'm going to talk to her.

But each time I wussed out cuz I didn't know what to say.

How the FVCK can I fix this?? I was going to say something like "Hey, I keep running into you", but after that, I wouldn't know how to create a conversation.

AARGH!!!! Any advice fellow DJ's? :mad:
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Broham

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Hey I keep running into you. Are you stalking me or something? (all done with a smile) If she smiles back you're in.
 

wiggadude

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Haha, thanks that's pretty good.

Originally posted by Broham
Hey I keep running into you. Are you stalking me or something? (all done with a smile) If she smiles back you're in.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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Originally posted by Broham
Hey I keep running into you. Are you stalking me or something? (all done with a smile) If she smiles back you're in.
So what would you say next? There are so many threads about guys that spend so much time coming up with the perfect opening line but they never prepare what to say next.

Guys, you need to work on you conversation skills and not memorizing just an opening line.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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