Friendzoned by girl I like, but it has left me confused?

[Sgthaytham]

She said she "doesn't want to ruin our friendship" which obviously screams Friendzone.

I told her that I must have misunderstood the situation.

She asks what I meant, so I tell her "I'm attracted to you, but I understand now that I misjudged it all"

Her: "Misjudged how you feel about me?"

Me: "About how you feel about me"

Her "You're wrong. Always trust your first instincts." (WTF?)

15 minutes later, just before I was leaving for work, she asks if I would want to watch a film with her...



I give up on understanding women, it's useless.

 

[Sgthaytham]

Can anyone confirm she has friendzoned me so I can just move on?

 

[wifehunter]

sh!t test... passed

 

[lizardking82]

Dude...go over her house, escalate, probably get laid LOL

 

[Sgthaytham]

sh!t test... passed

It was a **** test?

How can you tell?

What should I do from now?

 

[wifehunter]

It was a **** test?

How can you tell?

What should I do from now?

do nothing...the question is "what should SHE do?"

let her qualify herself.

 

[Sgthaytham]

do nothing...the question is "what should SHE do."

let her qualify herself.

So I just wait till she gets in touch?

 

[Thorninmyside]

See how much of a friend she is when you starting fvcking another girl.

 

[Sgthaytham]

See how much of a friend she is when you starting fvcking another girl.

So what do you think is up with her?

 

[Thorninmyside]

So what do you think is up with her?

I think she needs to **** or get off the can.

 

[wifehunter]

So I just wait till she gets in touch?

That depends on the situation.

But, I wouldn't wait. Just do what you do.

What DO you do anyway?

 

[marmel75]

Don't pay attention to what she says, pay attention to what she does. Go to her house and escalate.

 

[devilkingx2]

She said she "doesn't want to ruin our friendship" which obviously screams Friendzone.

I told her that I must have misunderstood the situation.

She asks what I meant, so I tell her "I'm attracted to you, but I understand now that I misjudged it all"

Her: "Misjudged how you feel about me?"

Me: "About how you feel about me"

Her "You're wrong. Always trust your first instincts." (WTF?)

15 minutes later, just before I was leaving for work, she asks if I would want to watch a film with her...



I give up on understanding women, it's useless.

it sounds like she wanted to bang you but for whatever reason she figured it wasn't mutual and she was friendzoning you pre-emptively and you saying that changed her mind

 

[Sgthaytham]

it sounds like she wanted to bang you but for whatever reason she figured it wasn't mutual and she was friendzoning you pre-emptively and you saying that changed her mind

Strange that she would think that when I was literally all over her this summer

I don’t even know what’s going on anymore!

 

[sazc]

She said she "doesn't want to ruin our friendship" which obviously screams Friendzone.

I told her that I must have misunderstood the situation.

She asks what I meant, so I tell her "I'm attracted to you, but I understand now that I misjudged it all"

Her: "Misjudged how you feel about me?"

Me: "About how you feel about me"

Her "You're wrong. Always trust your first instincts." (WTF?)

15 minutes later, just before I was leaving for work, she asks if I would want to watch a film with her...



I give up on understanding women, it's useless.

Watch the film and make a move, that will tell you where she sees you.

 

[Mr Wright]

If you want to bang the chick, you can't be friends with her. Knowing that you want to bang someone yet supplicating to their frame is not the way forward. Consider the friendship over when you told her how you felt. The only thing you can do now is try and bang her and a new frame can emerge but hanging around her now like nothing has happened is weak sauce.

You can sit here all day trying to work out what she's thinking or saying or you can take action...the art of being a man is being lost for sure.

 

[Sgthaytham]

She got back in touch today by sending a photo of her at a music concert (she works at a venue) and her saying she was going to be there for 2 hours.

Haven't responded.

 

[Sgthaytham]

Sg when you say all over her do mean physical? Make out? More info? This went on all summer?

No making out as we didn't get alone together... we were flirting, touching, etc...

 

[Sgthaytham]

At this point i wouldnt chase too hard. I agree with @wifehunter on this. Let her persue a little bit.
The art of allowing the girl to chase has gotten a little ghost around here.
Qualifying and compliance are pretty important related directly to her interest level. If she doesnt quaulify herself your frame is off balance.

She got back in touch today. Apparently she's at the venue she works at and sent me a picture of it all.

 

[Sgthaytham]

ask her out on a date. If she says no, any subsequent flirting she does is just attention wh0ring

She's been trying to get us to watch a movie for the last two weeks.

It was something I first brought up, but both our schedules meant that we couldn't. She has brought it up a few times since, but she always manages to set them on a night I work on...

I honestly thought that her saying "I don't want to ruin the friendship" meant Friendzone, full stop. People here seem to be telling me otherwise: like it was a "**** test" or something.