"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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friendzone escape.. again.

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Okay guys, so you may have read a few weeks ago that I had broken out of the friendzone with this girl I know on a FWB level. Perfect by me! Girl is probably a 9 in my book.

So this weekend I'm gonna go for it again, with a different girl. She shows a lot of interest in me, is always flirting with me, and has tried to kiss me numerous times (during these times I had been with other girls and did not want to fvck up) There are just a few concerns on my mind at the moment about it.

1.) This girl, and the girl i had previously hooked up with are friends. Don't wanna make things complicated.. (Although they might get better :cool: )
2.) She is a little bit crazy
3.) She had done the same thing to one of my other friends, then when he went for it, she acted as if he had raped her.

I will report back with the outcome when the event takes place. Wish me luck guys!
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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i dont really like number 3 very much but dont see any other problems, friendzone is something of a myth anyway imo (or at least its just self inflicted)
 

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mahoney said:
i dont really like number 3 very much but dont see any other problems, friendzone is something of a myth anyway imo (or at least its just self inflicted)
That is true, the number 3 might be a little bit of trouble. But I feel like my friend may have come on too strong. He tends to do that sometimes.
 

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That sounds like a big risk, if she did that to your bud then she'll probably do it to you.

If I were you, I'd **** the other girl real good some more and see if she is up for a threesome, but make it look like her idea. Like inception.
 

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number 3 is a bit of concern....

proceed but with caution...
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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oh, and let us know what happens :yes:
 

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Alex DeLarge said:
Okay guys, so you may have read a few weeks ago that I had broken out of the friendzone with this girl I know on a FWB level. Perfect by me! Girl is probably a 9 in my book.

So this weekend I'm gonna go for it again, with a different girl. She shows a lot of interest in me, is always flirting with me, and has tried to kiss me numerous times (during these times I had been with other girls and did not want to fvck up) There are just a few concerns on my mind at the moment about it.

1.) This girl, and the girl i had previously hooked up with are friends. Don't wanna make things complicated.. (Although they might get better :cool: )
2.) She is a little bit crazy
3.) She had done the same thing to one of my other friends, then when he went for it, she acted as if he had raped her.

I will report back with the outcome when the event takes place. Wish me luck guys!
How do you know for sure you are out of the friendzone?
 

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Alex DeLarge said:
O She shows a lot of interest in me, is always flirting with me, and has tried to kiss me numerous times
This isn't escaping the friendzone, this is getting with a chick that wants your c0ck...if anything, SHE is escaping the friendzone.
 

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Well guys just reporting back.. And I hooked up with this girl. Not too sure if it's going to go anywhere, but I did it.

We only made out for barely a minute. All of my "friends" at the party were CBing hard by just walking in on us and doing other stupid sh1t. She's a real quiet shy girl too, so once this happened she just wanted to stop and acted all weird.

If she keeps acting weird, I'm not even gonna bother.. Hopefully I can work this situation out!
 
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Alex DeLarge said:
Okay guys, so you may have read a few weeks ago that I had broken out of the friendzone with this girl I know on a FWB level. Perfect by me! Girl is probably a 9 in my book.

So this weekend I'm gonna go for it again, with a different girl. She shows a lot of interest in me, is always flirting with me, and has tried to kiss me numerous times (during these times I had been with other girls and did not want to fvck up) There are just a few concerns on my mind at the moment about it.

1.) This girl, and the girl i had previously hooked up with are friends. Don't wanna make things complicated.. (Although they might get better :cool: )
2.) She is a little bit crazy
3.) She had done the same thing to one of my other friends, then when he went for it, she acted as if he had raped her.

I will report back with the outcome when the event takes place. Wish me luck guys!

You are risking ruin unnecessarily.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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BettorOffSingle said:
You are risking ruin unnecessarily.
How so? Please explain.
 

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ARrocket said:
This isn't escaping the friendzone, this is getting with a chick that wants your c0ck...if anything, SHE is escaping the friendzone.
Exactly, I think the OP is mischaracterizing the friend zone. Friend zone is a place a woman puts you after either basically rejecting you or has otherwise determined you are not a guy she has a sexual interest in. There is no escaping the friend zone, and even if you can or do it is not worth the effort and time it'd take. Heating up a simmering pot so to speak is not escaping the friend zone or proof the friend zone doesn't exist.
 
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