"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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friends with benefits.

the_azn_fu

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okay. theres this one girl and i know shes interested. but i heard from my girl "friend" that she has no time to date and that with friends with benefits, someone usually gets hurt. im not trying to find a relationship either, but more of a friends with benefits. how would i persuade her to want to do something? because at my school, there are not many "fish in the sea" to choose from. i would have moved on if there were. any suggestions would be great! i cant think of anything. thanks!
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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T Money

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tell her "We'd have great sex together. I'm just sure of it. The compatability between us is amazing, what do you think?"

So you're not actually asking her to have sex with you, but suggesting it.

But I have no expirience with a friends-with-benefits situation, so take my words with a grain of salt.
 

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this "advice" was so stupid it made me **** my pants.

1) build attraction
2) **** her
3) be sincere and tell her what you want from her. If she's ok with that, cool, nobody gets hurt, if she wants something more, stop seeing her. Easy as that.
 

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^^^^ Or if you want to be a bit sly, go out with her and then break up sayig that you don't see each other enough. She sobs, you say she can still come over when she can, and boom. Oh yeah, and the first bit of advice you got was utter ****e.
 

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You're probably too much in the friends zone.

Ironically friends with benifits only works if you aren't actually friends i.e. **** buddies. She's right someone will get hurt, probably you.

Also BTW mate, are you sure you don't want anything more?

She's probably detected that you have and therefore she doesn't want to hurt you. She might just also not see you in that way. That could be for a whole load of reasons.

Is she the best looking girl in your school by the way and are you being friends with her really just to win her - It won't work - face it and move on.

I suggest you walk away from this one because it sounds like you will never get her.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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First - stop talking to other women for suggestions. Find out for yourself and maybe you two will figure out something.
 
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Hey man, what's up with this forum? Dude, have you read any material here, your MINDSET is totally fvcked up right now?
 
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