"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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friend likes my g/f

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So here's the background...
My friend and I both liked this girl and he asked her out first. She LJBFed him and when I asked her out she said yes.
Flash forward a few months...
Now the girl is my g/f and my friend has his own girlfriend. But I'm pretty sure he still likes her and is still trying to get her. He always wants to hang out with us two and hangs around her way more than his own girlfriend. He constantly tries to set up double dates for us but when I refuse and my girl can't go either, he cancels on his own date.
She and I were going out for coffee after school and he "coincidentally" ran into there pretending to be all surprised that she was there.
So to summarize, my friend has basically become my girlfriends "stalker" and all the deceptive actions he takes is getting me pissed off. If I confront him, he'll definately deny it since there's no solid proof and since my girlfriend is friends with him, she seems oblivious to his sneakiness.
Maybe this is just jealousy kicking in or maybe I'm just being AFC. If I confront my g/f about this she may or may not see it as my being insecure and all but if I just keep letting this happen, it's gonna annoy me to death because he keeps trying to get involved with the two of us (her mostly). So my fellow DJ's, what would you recommend for a situation like this?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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mikel

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Trust your girlfriend, she said no to him and yes too you. Just look over it until it becomes a real problem or she mentions something about it to you.

That being said, if my friend got with some girl I wanted bad then I would just have to hold off my feelings cause that is your bro and most girls aren't going to be around for you forever.
 

DJ Alejandro

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you should at least tell him to be a friend and leave you two alone for some quality time together. friend or stalker, he's gonna get the point that you're quite pissed off.
 

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if hes coming in your way of a lay (also known as a ****blocking) then tell him to stop. Otherwise if you know your not going to get laid by this chick, but want her as social proof or for the occasional macking, try not to have a oneitus over her.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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WrEcKLeSS2000

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First off....Bros before hoes...He should respect the fact that she is YOUR girl now, and find his own girls to go out with...If he doesn't and is still trying to make moves on her...Sounds like he really isn't YOUR friend.
 

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He doesnt sound like too much of a friend. but dont worry about it dude. If you really are worried about your friend getting your girl (which I dont think you are), then you shouldnt be, because your friend sounds like a real AFC
 
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