"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Friend givin me AFC advice

Raikojo17

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my friend is a huge AFC. recently i've been helpin him ou wit his girl problems, tryint o help him get this one chick, but now he thinks he can help me out wit the girl im working on (he kno's her, they used to be friends). He's gettin on my case talkin about im fvckin up wit this girl because i turned her down because i had plans wit my bros (bros before hoes right?). that made her kinda mad at me, but i told her we'd hang out sometime and she said it was cool.

but he thinks im ****ing up?! lol just because i pissed her off. he's tellin me i should have chose her over my bros to make her happy. this is like the 5th time i've pissed her off ever since i've started talking to her, and yet she keeps coming back to me, claiming she wasnt mad (yea right!). every time we fight we make up, so jus because i piss her off once doesnt mean i'm fvckin up right?

but still, i cant help but wonder if he's speakin the truth. he says it alot,and it's startin to get to me. can u really lose a girl jus because u piss her off alittle bit?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Kev07

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in most cases no.

I wouldn't do it too much, you need to give in once in a while or else she will think that you're just using her as backup or something.

just make a plan with her and stick it through, and don't worry if you piss her off over something that isn't big, girls don't use reason.

i know first hand from one of my friends, he treats his gf like she doesn't exist. They probably hang out once every 2 weeks or so and when they're at school, he just chills with his boys and she just lingers around for a bit then goes back to her hang out spot. I wouldn't worry about it.

Just don't take bros before hos too seriously, if you make plans, make sure you follow through, or else it's just rude
 

CORVETTE06

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dont be stupid. its bros before hoes but not like that... if u make plans with her before ur bros, u stick to the plans with her. ur lucky she still talkin to u.
 

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Women can't get everything they want. And when they do, they still aren't satisfied. So no, don'tp give a woman everything she wants; on the other hand don't be a jerk.

As far as advice from inexperienced friends, I've learned that there's little you can do to convince your friends of anything. Actions speak louder than words. When your friend gives you lame advice, just nod your head. No need to tell your boys everything you're doing with a girl; just the juicy stuff.

Do your thing, and the rest will work itself out.
 

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pissing her off 5 times instead of actually going out with her sounds pretty dumb
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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