"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Friend givin me AFC advice

Raikojo17

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my friend is a huge AFC. recently i've been helpin him ou wit his girl problems, tryint o help him get this one chick, but now he thinks he can help me out wit the girl im working on (he kno's her, they used to be friends). He's gettin on my case talkin about im fvckin up wit this girl because i turned her down because i had plans wit my bros (bros before hoes right?). that made her kinda mad at me, but i told her we'd hang out sometime and she said it was cool.

but he thinks im ****ing up?! lol just because i pissed her off. he's tellin me i should have chose her over my bros to make her happy. this is like the 5th time i've pissed her off ever since i've started talking to her, and yet she keeps coming back to me, claiming she wasnt mad (yea right!). every time we fight we make up, so jus because i piss her off once doesnt mean i'm fvckin up right?

but still, i cant help but wonder if he's speakin the truth. he says it alot,and it's startin to get to me. can u really lose a girl jus because u piss her off alittle bit?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Kev07

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in most cases no.

I wouldn't do it too much, you need to give in once in a while or else she will think that you're just using her as backup or something.

just make a plan with her and stick it through, and don't worry if you piss her off over something that isn't big, girls don't use reason.

i know first hand from one of my friends, he treats his gf like she doesn't exist. They probably hang out once every 2 weeks or so and when they're at school, he just chills with his boys and she just lingers around for a bit then goes back to her hang out spot. I wouldn't worry about it.

Just don't take bros before hos too seriously, if you make plans, make sure you follow through, or else it's just rude
 

CORVETTE06

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dont be stupid. its bros before hoes but not like that... if u make plans with her before ur bros, u stick to the plans with her. ur lucky she still talkin to u.
 

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Women can't get everything they want. And when they do, they still aren't satisfied. So no, don'tp give a woman everything she wants; on the other hand don't be a jerk.

As far as advice from inexperienced friends, I've learned that there's little you can do to convince your friends of anything. Actions speak louder than words. When your friend gives you lame advice, just nod your head. No need to tell your boys everything you're doing with a girl; just the juicy stuff.

Do your thing, and the rest will work itself out.
 

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pissing her off 5 times instead of actually going out with her sounds pretty dumb
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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