WesCottII
Master Don Juan
Hey, Elturd.
How about some quiet time?
How about some quiet time?
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
You're in high school buddy, if these girls really were interested in you, you'd know about it by them coming back to you.ElStud said:Well yeah, it depends, sometimes they are and sometimes they're not. But the thing is, if the girls are clearly laughing at my jokes and not rejecting kino, these guys will somehow say the girls aren't atleast a little bit interested. In this post, nah they really weren't interested, but it was a fun approach nonetheless.
Well what good sir, IS a successful FR? If it means I didn't get a number of a kiss, I don't really care. I approach girls with the attitude of improving. Good or bad, every approach can help me improve. Wow, I'm not getting numbers, well maybe that's just because I don't go up there saying "OMG! I MUST HAVE HER NUMBER!". Second of all, half the guys bragging about numbers, have NO proof at all of being able to get them. I'd much rather focus on escalating things to a kiss with a girl, rather than focus on getting her digits. A good FR to me is if the girl seems genuinely interested and laughing. Also for you guys telling ME to get numbers, where's your proof of getting numbers? Aha, no where to be found. And you guys seem to have this misperception I post these FR's for your entertainment, well that's a misconception. I post these FR's for the sake of recording my interactions. Don't like like em'? Don't reply, easy as can be.Phyzzle said:Damn, elmnick has spoken.
I've never flamed ElStud, since he's sort of an anti-keyboard jockey. He actually posts UNsuccessful field reports, unlike an actual KBJ, where every situation magically ends up with every woman wanting him.
Frankly, I think he'll be more successful when he can go to a club and get drunk. Some of these offensively obnoxious guys who barge in and start gabbing about nothing can be quite successful with drunk girls.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Get a blog.ElStud said:Well what good sir, IS a successful FR? If it means I didn't get a number of a kiss, I don't really care. I approach girls with the attitude of improving. Good or bad, every approach can help me improve. Wow, I'm not getting numbers, well maybe that's just because I don't go up there saying "OMG! I MUST HAVE HER NUMBER!". Second of all, half the guys bragging about numbers, have NO proof at all of being able to get them. I'd much rather focus on escalating things to a kiss with a girl, rather than focus on getting her digits. A good FR to me is if the girl seems genuinely interested and laughing. Also for you guys telling ME to get numbers, where's your proof of getting numbers? Aha, no where to be found. And you guys seem to have this misperception I post these FR's for your entertainment, well that's a misconception. I post these FR's for the sake of recording my interactions. Don't like like em'? Don't reply, easy as can be.
It's not my fault you can't read long sentences.Kev07 said:Get a blog.
Hey Elstud,ElStud said:Well what good sir, IS a successful FR? If it means I didn't get a number of a kiss, I don't really care. I approach girls with the attitude of improving. Good or bad, every approach can help me improve. Wow, I'm not getting numbers, well maybe that's just because I don't go up there saying "OMG! I MUST HAVE HER NUMBER!". Second of all, half the guys bragging about numbers, have NO proof at all of being able to get them. I'd much rather focus on escalating things to a kiss with a girl, rather than focus on getting her digits. A good FR to me is if the girl seems genuinely interested and laughing. Also for you guys telling ME to get numbers, where's your proof of getting numbers? Aha, no where to be found. And you guys seem to have this misperception I post these FR's for your entertainment, well that's a misconception. I post these FR's for the sake of recording my interactions. Don't like like em'? Don't reply, easy as can be.
Where does me telling you to get a blog have anythingn to do with reading long sentences?ElStud said:It's not my fault you can't read long sentences.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
:crackup:skirtChaser said:this guy is so far behind he thinks he is first, in other words, he's been lapped and doesn't even know it.
Seems like no one likes or respects you.they're like "Go away!"
LMAO. haha i didn't read your posts before i saw that stickied thread that was making fun of you. I think you do a better job making fun of yourself then that guy did.ElStud said:So now it's the next lunch period and I approach a group of girls, one who was Lindsey and the others who I didn't really know. So immediately she's like "Mike, let's play the quiet game"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.