My "how" is pretty damn simple.
I "looksmax" and stress "bodygame".
I strongly advocate for men to hit the gym in efforts to build
muscle mass and lose
excess fat...becoming better physical versions of themselves.
A byproduct of doing these things is the development of confidence, but this confidence is for YOU, not for the women to sniff and detect (if they do, then fine..but the confidence is for
you, not
them).
This newly acquired confidence will push YOU to become the leader in the approach and interaction, by boldly stepping to women and having the conversation go wherever
you want it to go.
That, is what I'm advocating.
If you walk into a joint and there are 10 women there, at least 3 of them should be checking you out with
lustful eyes

.
Or, at the very least, even if they aren't checking you out with lustful eyes, you should be able to exchange contact info with at least 3 of them (of whom you're attracted)...because of their interest in
you.
That, is my "how".
Right, because they find you
physically attractive.
They aren't going out their way to talk to you or make eyes because..
"You seem to have so much confidence, and I couldn't resist coming to talk to you".
Yeah, ok.
The conflict is; the OP first had a
"lead with your wallet" mentality to his post...which is not the
right message to be spreading...as it promotes weak, simp ass mentalities.
Second, the OP (and others) promotion of the aura of confidence, is oversimplified.
Third, and granted, this was all within the context of OP's message of "stay on your grind & purpose...focus on the $$ bag", which I'm all for...
But then OP took it a step further by suggesting men to
not cold approach in the meantime, as if there is conflict between grind & hustle, and new pursuits of women.
I disagreed, and still do.
And here we are.