"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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FR: Insta-date then found out she’s a virgin

RickPound

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Fellas,

Met this 24 yr old girl at a networking event last week. I was there solo as Was she. She came up to me and introduced herself while I was at the open bar. Young,cute, and good conversation so I decided to go for the same night date. After some rapport, I said “let’s get outta here and go get a drink. I know another place with dancing and a band”.

Got to talking later that night and it came up that she was a virgin and saving herself for marriage. Even has a promise ring To herself she wears on her ring finger. Anyway, didn’t let it phase me. There was touching, close dancing, etc but I didn’t push it and dropped her off at her hotel. She texted later that night and seemed to fish a bit for an invite. Told her to come back over but it fizzled out.
Anyway, I’m pretty sure if I ask her out again she’s into it, but damn I don’t know if I’m ready for all the effort to try and get some from her.

she could be lying too of course
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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she was a virgin and saving herself for marriage.
Doesn't seem like she's doing a very good job. My advice: tell her that you'll do her in the mouth and then in the ass (in that order) and that way she'll still be a virgin. That way she'll keep her sacred "innocence" for the naive virgin lover she ends up marrying and his wallet will be the first to jizz into her purse.
 

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Anyway, I’m pretty sure if I ask her out again she’s into it, but damn I don’t know if I’m ready for all the effort to try and get some from her.

she could be lying too of course
Man, there are plenty of hoes out there, don't take advantage of this girl...karma and all that.
If she's lying and/or is a born-again virgin, do you really want to deal with such a blatant liar/nutcase?
 

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You’re both right. Nothing can be determined without a second date. I’ll play it a bit aggressive and get her to show her hand.
 

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texted her a couple days later with a little banter. She said she was recovering from the flu - before I even asked her out again. But I still said rest up I wanna take you out next week. She sent some dumb meme back. Classic…

leaving this one unless she shows interest after “she gets better”
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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