"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
FR: Girl talked to me.
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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Jukeboxhero
Senior Don Juan
So you did get her number, right?
Grand Wizzard Alamar
Master Don Juan
Nice but you gotta work on your closing... be interesting and keep talking to her because you don't wanna seem boring. make yourself occupied!!!
Also, it's kind of boring when you just end with 1 word.. she also sounded uninterested.
Yeah.
I.A.F.Y.B.
Master Don Juan
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Grand Wizzard Alamar
Master Don Juan
much smoother than,I.A.F.Y.B. said:3 little words. "What's your number."
can I call you?
can I get your number?
etc.
it even has a period instead of a question mark... I like that!
Grand Wizzard Alamar
Master Don Juan
Actually I have used this.ElStud said:Thanks guys but no offense GWA but I don't think you should be giving advice. Sure it sounds good, but likely you yourself haven't used it in field yet.
I've asked for #s in question form and got an answer in statement form.
You have to close though man.. not just leaving it at yeah... I've also done that... not good, it sucks.
Grand Wizzard Alamar
Master Don Juan
No she actually saw you playing air guitar and decided to ask you if you played normal guitar too.ElStud said:She probably just saw me as high value and decided to talk to me.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Point is she was interested and yes, probably saw me as high value. If she wasn't interested she probably wouldn't of asked it in the first place and wouldn't have brought up the piano thing.Grand Wizzard Alamar said:No she actually saw you playing air guitar and decided to ask you if you played normal guitar too.
Grand Wizzard Alamar
Master Don Juan
Elstud, it's good that you have the mindset of being higher value, but all she did was ask you if you played guitar.ElStud said:Point is she was interested and yes, probably saw me as high value. If she wasn't interested she probably wouldn't of asked it in the first place and wouldn't have brought up the piano thing.
She wasn't all like "hey sexy, let me play your air guitar" while strumming you over the crotch...
She didn't back away when I initiated meeting her though. She could of easily said "No that's not a good idea". This is why I say don't give advice man, you may be somewhat experienced, but it's clear you still have some way to go.Grand Wizzard Alamar said:Elstud, it's good that you have the mindset of being higher value, but all she did was ask you if you played guitar.
She wasn't all like "hey sexy, let me play your air guitar" while strumming you over the crotch...
Grand Wizzard Alamar
Master Don Juan
haha she must love you.ElStud said:She didn't back away when I initiated meeting her though. She could of easily said "No that's not a good idea".
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Again this is why I tell you to NOT give advice. Sure you might've tested things in field, but you have a LONG way to go and it's clear you don't know a lot of stuff about interest, attraction in the like. That's okay, but when you try to act like you do know something about attraction that's bad.Grand Wizzard Alamar said:haha she must love you.
Grand Wizzard Alamar
Master Don Juan
Oh really? Same for you in this case.ElStud said:Again this is why I tell you to NOT give advice. Sure you might've tested things in field, but you have a LONG way to go and it's clear you don't know a lot of stuff about interest, attraction in the like. That's okay, but when you try to act like you do know something about attraction that's bad.
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jaja!ElStud said:FR: Girl talked to me.
the sarcasm in the replies are hilarious!
well i think they are sarcasm... not sure. but it's still hilarious how they are making it seem like an incredible feat that a girl talked to you. well it might actually be a incredible feat for you.
great job! you are now lvl. -1/5 instead of lvl. -5/5... a few more FRs you might actually make it out of the hole and be a lvl. 0/5 Half-elf Alphamale!
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.