"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
FR: Girl talked to me.
- Thread starter ElStud
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Jukeboxhero
Senior Don Juan
So you did get her number, right?
Grand Wizzard Alamar
Master Don Juan
Nice but you gotta work on your closing... be interesting and keep talking to her because you don't wanna seem boring. make yourself occupied!!!
Also, it's kind of boring when you just end with 1 word.. she also sounded uninterested.
Yeah.
I.A.F.Y.B.
Master Don Juan
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Grand Wizzard Alamar
Master Don Juan
much smoother than,I.A.F.Y.B. said:3 little words. "What's your number."
can I call you?
can I get your number?
etc.
it even has a period instead of a question mark... I like that!
Grand Wizzard Alamar
Master Don Juan
Actually I have used this.ElStud said:Thanks guys but no offense GWA but I don't think you should be giving advice. Sure it sounds good, but likely you yourself haven't used it in field yet.
I've asked for #s in question form and got an answer in statement form.
You have to close though man.. not just leaving it at yeah... I've also done that... not good, it sucks.
Grand Wizzard Alamar
Master Don Juan
No she actually saw you playing air guitar and decided to ask you if you played normal guitar too.ElStud said:She probably just saw me as high value and decided to talk to me.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Point is she was interested and yes, probably saw me as high value. If she wasn't interested she probably wouldn't of asked it in the first place and wouldn't have brought up the piano thing.Grand Wizzard Alamar said:No she actually saw you playing air guitar and decided to ask you if you played normal guitar too.
Grand Wizzard Alamar
Master Don Juan
Elstud, it's good that you have the mindset of being higher value, but all she did was ask you if you played guitar.ElStud said:Point is she was interested and yes, probably saw me as high value. If she wasn't interested she probably wouldn't of asked it in the first place and wouldn't have brought up the piano thing.
She wasn't all like "hey sexy, let me play your air guitar" while strumming you over the crotch...
She didn't back away when I initiated meeting her though. She could of easily said "No that's not a good idea". This is why I say don't give advice man, you may be somewhat experienced, but it's clear you still have some way to go.Grand Wizzard Alamar said:Elstud, it's good that you have the mindset of being higher value, but all she did was ask you if you played guitar.
She wasn't all like "hey sexy, let me play your air guitar" while strumming you over the crotch...
Grand Wizzard Alamar
Master Don Juan
haha she must love you.ElStud said:She didn't back away when I initiated meeting her though. She could of easily said "No that's not a good idea".
Chicks Just Dig Me
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Again this is why I tell you to NOT give advice. Sure you might've tested things in field, but you have a LONG way to go and it's clear you don't know a lot of stuff about interest, attraction in the like. That's okay, but when you try to act like you do know something about attraction that's bad.Grand Wizzard Alamar said:haha she must love you.
Grand Wizzard Alamar
Master Don Juan
Oh really? Same for you in this case.ElStud said:Again this is why I tell you to NOT give advice. Sure you might've tested things in field, but you have a LONG way to go and it's clear you don't know a lot of stuff about interest, attraction in the like. That's okay, but when you try to act like you do know something about attraction that's bad.
Michele l'Arcangelo
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jaja!ElStud said:FR: Girl talked to me.
the sarcasm in the replies are hilarious!
well i think they are sarcasm... not sure. but it's still hilarious how they are making it seem like an incredible feat that a girl talked to you. well it might actually be a incredible feat for you.
great job! you are now lvl. -1/5 instead of lvl. -5/5... a few more FRs you might actually make it out of the hole and be a lvl. 0/5 Half-elf Alphamale!
Chicks Just Dig Me
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.