So I'm walking down the halls at the school I go to for vocationals and this random chick at her locker, who I've never talked to or seen before said "Hey, why are you all dressed up and snazzy today?" because I'm all dressed up and stuff for this thing we do in my program. I just say "Oh, every Thursday we have this dress up thing, it's for my class, ever heard of ITP?" she's like "Yeah, thanks" I'd say she was about an HB7 or something. I don't know really know if I should regard it as a field report since the girl actually talked to me.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
FR? Don't know. Random chick talked to me.
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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Heres how the conversation should have went
Her: "Hey, why are you all dressed up and snazzy today?"
You: I'm just trying to look my best for you
then go from there
Her: "Hey, why are you all dressed up and snazzy today?"
You: I'm just trying to look my best for you
then go from there
WesCottII
Master Don Juan
"Man....you are nosey 
. Bet you're peeping out your curtains at home trying to see all whats going on down your street....infact I could see you as a peeping Tom. Oh God....you didn't see me dressing in my mums undies did you?!?!"
. Bet you're peeping out your curtains at home trying to see all whats going on down your street....infact I could see you as a peeping Tom. Oh God....you didn't see me dressing in my mums undies did you?!?!"socalrunner
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excuse my ignorance but what does fr mean? thanks in advance
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.