This thread is giving me a headache and I'm really getting tired of justifying everything that I do. Apparently I'm being called a jerk now for taking a girl to the mall... wow.
First of all I want to make one thing clear. I met this girl from online. When a meet a girl from online, I don't go from the phone to a DATE. I go from the phone, to a GET TOGETHER hang out sort of deal. I can see how the title of the thread is misleading, but I thought I cleared that up earlier. With that being said, I usually MEET the girl, then see whether or not they're 1) crazy or psycho, 2) worth my time and 3) worth dating.
I'm getting negative after negative responses in this thread... people that are accusing me of being a jerk and a horrible person. I can tell you this is definetly the last time I post a FR.
Now look.. I really don't care about whether or not the girl likes me or not. I'm indifferent to the outcome. I don't care if you guys think I'm this huge jerk or don't believe that I can get girls... I will do what WORKS and what gets me RESULTS, even if you guys disagree with it or don't see it as logical. I am 100% congruent with EVERYTHING that I do, and I can assure you I have no problems with my dates. I never hear any complaining or *****yness... I show them the MOST FUN they've ever had. They love it!
It's amazing how you can make taking a girl on a few personal errands with you (grocery shopping, ANYTHING) a FUN time. It's all in your attitude... it doesn't matter WHAT you do. I can't believe you guys are criticizing me for going to the mall with a 16 y/o girl. Most girls you meet from online WILL NOT even trust you enough to go out to dinner with you... they'd need to meet up with you in a public place and hang out in public.
Now the biggest and most important part is my attitude. I simply DO NOT CARE. I do not care if this girl likes me or not. I'm not trying to seek her approval, I'm not trying to win her over and I'm sure as hell not trying to impress her. If she doesn't like my attitude... she can walk out at any time. It's funny you guys mention how much of a jerk I was... I mention in my FR that I noticed she wasn't having a good time and was being negative... and so I asked her "would you like me to drive you home?" and she said what? She said NO. It was obvious and crystal clear that everything I was doing prior to that was congruent, tolerable and wasn't disrespecting her, otherwise she would've allowed me to take her home. I think it was clear the turning point was when I spanked her... which really offended her.
Again, I know you guys look at this stuff, read it online and then immediately see it as being a JERK and disrespecting a woman. You guys need to see this stuff done in REAL LIFE, rather than analyzing it over a computer. I think it's Rick H that says, "If you do ANYTHING with enough authority, you're going to get away with it." I am out to have FUN... I playfully tease girls, annoy them and give them no special privelages. She is just like any other girl to me. I treat girls like they're a bratty little sister... you love her, but she's annoying. I don't want you guys to think that I am abusive towards girls or verbally assault girls... this is NOT what I'm about - so stop treating me like I'm an abusive jerk. I don't call girls fat or mean names, or get them upset nor do I disrespect them. I still DO good things on my dates and treat them well... but they usually have to earn my respect first (which this girl clearly didn't). For example, I always open doors for the girl, always walk on the proper side of the sidewalk and always do thoughtful, spontanious things for them.
Let's face it... this girl was a stuckup biatch. I'm curious to know what you guys would do when a girl is disrespectful and a total biatch to you from the start... I can bet you half of the guys would put up with the attitude, wouldn't know what to do and would drive her home, walk her to the door and then call her afterwards to apologize for the fact that she didn't have fun. Instead, I realize that there are over THREE BILLION MORE women in the world and give her the chance for a ride home, she declines and continues to be a bigger biatch, so I tell her "this isn't working out, it was REALLY NICE MEETING you, have a good life."
NEXT. Up is still up, down is still down, the sun still rises in the east and everyone moves the hell on with things!