Originally posted by McKindley
I still see a problem with respect here, though.
Imagine a girl asked you to meet her in her hotel lobby, only to find that she got 3 other guys to come over, and wanted you to compete over her, or all gangbang, or watch while she plays candyland with one of the guys.
That's seriously disrespectful, and no person who has respect for themselves would put up with it. I understand its a great story to tell, but if you actually did this to a group of girls you would be a douche.
Here's where you might be incongruent: You keep talking about doing things with authority, right? I understand its a nice idea and all, but what makes you so certain that you HAVE this authority?
In the end you just come off like you HAVE to be in control, and have all these contrived ideas about how you (your majesty) should be treated by total strangers. If you met up with a girl and before she left the house she gave you a list of things you MUST do, and made you agree do you think that would make you think this was going to be a great date? Would you feel respected?
(really, dude, if this many people say you're doing something wrong, your probably doing something wrong)
If a girl did attempt that on me, I'd simply LEAVE. Move on with my life. I do have respect for myself, and of course I wouldn't put up with it. Remember, this is MY reality, and she is a guest.
And yes, I do not see myself anywhere near as congruent as I'd like to be. For example, when I spanked her it was very obvious I didn't do it with enough authority and wasn't congruent with it, so she came back and knocked my block off. Most of my C+F and behaviour is very congruent with me... and I just naturally think of these things for the most part. Part of the whole congruency issue which I go by is "fake it till you make it". The more you practice at something, the more natural you'll become at it, the easier it will get and the better you will be. And man, this isn't about being bossy or controlling - I don't do any of that. It's about FUN. Everything I do is for FUN. How I mentioned earlier that when I buy a girl subway I usually order her the kids meal and tell her she can't play with the toy until she finishes it all... it's FUN. I handed a girl my coffee the other day while I was driving and said "awesome, you're the best!! you're #1!!!" with a really fun and positive attitude... she laughed and we joke about it everyday. It's not about being a control-freak. It's not like she's my slave and I treat her like dirt and expect her to follow every command I say. You're taking it to the extreme.
Nothing on this forum is based on solid facts... it's other people's opinions, and other peoples experiences. How many people on this website do you think field test everything that they do? How many people do you think on this website go out and try different methods, different attitudes, different openers and techniques to see what kind of results they get? Not that many!
I just want to quote Alpine real quick if I may (from another post) because I thought what he said was really interesting about this forum and it stuck with me for a few days:
CHOOSE YOUR SOURCES CAREFULLY:
"I used to think this forum was the dog's dangleys, but the more I learn from experience and the more threads I read I realise 80% of what people are saying here is complete disinformation.
As a newbie, you will take everything on face value 'cos you know no different. After a while you get to realise who's talking sh1te.
How do you know anyones credentials? At least with De Angelo it's from a kosher source and it's one system. If you take a bit from one guy and a different philosophy from another they conflict and confuse.
Pick a thread, any thread. Read through the advice. I guarantee you will find two people offering advice that is the total opposite to the other. Which is right? They can't both be right, or can they?"
A lot of people here give advice based on THEORY, rather than experience itself. That's why I've disregarded a lot of the negative replies here. I think there's been like 5 people that have replied with saying that the mall is a horrible place to take a girl. Really?? Because I have had tremendous success taking girls to the mall. They love it, I love it... they're comfortable there, I'm comfortable there... it's never boring and I have the funnest dates there. In fact I take EVERY girl I meet to the mall to hang out the first time.
I don't think I am totally wrong here. I do however agree that I went a LITTLE bit overboard with the C+F, shouldn't have spanked her and shouldn't have left her there. Other than that, everything else that I do is field tested (many times before) and WORKS (YES BELIEVE IT OR NOT). I know it's tough for you to believe, but it really really does work for me (even though it doesn't make sense!). And no these girls aren't ugly or fat. They're all 7+'s.