I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
yah well then he shouldn't be texting her. he should be about his business being a man and should call her when he's free and she's free. He seem like some needy guy who just met his first hot chic. All up in her face with a million texts. I usually don't agree with iqqi but this time I actually do. It sounds like she's just toying with him from start...bar girls are notorieously evil. If they smell a rat in any sense...yer dead in the water. They get hit on every night and hear every line in the book. The only bartender I pulled I pulled from a sense of quiet self assurance. Guys offering money, showing their wangs, bragging about their riches, trying to buy them stuff, even guys being wangy and funny (hehe), they seen it all. I pulled mine by coming off as a real man who didn't try to impress her but got to know her as a real person and refusing to pedestal her because she was hot. Your mileage may vary.Latinoman said:By the way...I don't think she wants to talk to him via telephone. I won't be surprised if she will ignore him if he calls her now. I think she is at work or something like that.
I agree.Latinoman said:If he is playing the text game...with a young woman...he CANNOT take anything serious.
If she is sending psycho texts, because she doesn't give a f@ck. Then he should go for broke too and act like he does not give a damn.
Who knows...maybe he can raise a little bit of her interest...or put her in a situation in which she has to classify herself. I doubt that, because he already made some serious mistakes with the texting early on.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Warrior74 said:yah well then he shouldn't be texting her. he should be about his business being a man and should call her when he's free and she's free. He seem like some needy guy who just met his first hot chic. All up in her face with a million texts. I usually don't agree with iqqi but this time I actually do. It sounds like she's just toying with him from start...bar girls are notorieously evil. If they smell a rat in any sense...yer dead in the water. They get hit on every night and hear every line in the book. The only bartender I pulled I pulled from a sense of quiet self assurance. Guys offering money, showing their wangs, bragging about their riches, trying to buy them stuff, even guys being wangy and funny (hehe), they seen it all. I pulled mine by coming off as a real man who didn't try to impress her but got to know her as a real person and refusing to pedestal her because she was hot. Your mileage may vary.
I think the OP should continue to post in this thread, see it all the way through so we can see what he learned from this.
I was wondering the same thing.iqqi said:?
And why is this thread in the MM forum? You have to be 25+ to post here.
Thanks for the support.iqqi said:I agree.
But I doubt he can pull it off.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Thanks bro...she didn't text me back or call me after our last texts...from now on, ill try not to play the texting game...the way i looked at it...i didn't really care. I wanted her, but seemed she was a total tease and i said things that made her lose interest.Apollo said:Ken, how old are you?
Did you honestly say "later gator"?
Taking a quick glance at your text's I'm sorry to say but it's game over...you blew your chance with this one. Learn from your mistakes (texting way too much) and apply the lessons learned to the next one.