Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
yah well then he shouldn't be texting her. he should be about his business being a man and should call her when he's free and she's free. He seem like some needy guy who just met his first hot chic. All up in her face with a million texts. I usually don't agree with iqqi but this time I actually do. It sounds like she's just toying with him from start...bar girls are notorieously evil. If they smell a rat in any sense...yer dead in the water. They get hit on every night and hear every line in the book. The only bartender I pulled I pulled from a sense of quiet self assurance. Guys offering money, showing their wangs, bragging about their riches, trying to buy them stuff, even guys being wangy and funny (hehe), they seen it all. I pulled mine by coming off as a real man who didn't try to impress her but got to know her as a real person and refusing to pedestal her because she was hot. Your mileage may vary.Latinoman said:By the way...I don't think she wants to talk to him via telephone. I won't be surprised if she will ignore him if he calls her now. I think she is at work or something like that.
I agree.Latinoman said:If he is playing the text game...with a young woman...he CANNOT take anything serious.
If she is sending psycho texts, because she doesn't give a f@ck. Then he should go for broke too and act like he does not give a damn.
Who knows...maybe he can raise a little bit of her interest...or put her in a situation in which she has to classify herself. I doubt that, because he already made some serious mistakes with the texting early on.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Warrior74 said:yah well then he shouldn't be texting her. he should be about his business being a man and should call her when he's free and she's free. He seem like some needy guy who just met his first hot chic. All up in her face with a million texts. I usually don't agree with iqqi but this time I actually do. It sounds like she's just toying with him from start...bar girls are notorieously evil. If they smell a rat in any sense...yer dead in the water. They get hit on every night and hear every line in the book. The only bartender I pulled I pulled from a sense of quiet self assurance. Guys offering money, showing their wangs, bragging about their riches, trying to buy them stuff, even guys being wangy and funny (hehe), they seen it all. I pulled mine by coming off as a real man who didn't try to impress her but got to know her as a real person and refusing to pedestal her because she was hot. Your mileage may vary.
I think the OP should continue to post in this thread, see it all the way through so we can see what he learned from this.
I was wondering the same thing.iqqi said:?
And why is this thread in the MM forum? You have to be 25+ to post here.
Thanks for the support.iqqi said:I agree.
But I doubt he can pull it off.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Thanks bro...she didn't text me back or call me after our last texts...from now on, ill try not to play the texting game...the way i looked at it...i didn't really care. I wanted her, but seemed she was a total tease and i said things that made her lose interest.Apollo said:Ken, how old are you?
Did you honestly say "later gator"?
Taking a quick glance at your text's I'm sorry to say but it's game over...you blew your chance with this one. Learn from your mistakes (texting way too much) and apply the lessons learned to the next one.