She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Like I said, that sh*t sucked bro, it's the reason why I'm afraid to approach because of bad approaches like this.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
A better social sense? Nah. You approach with all that conversational sh*t and it's really not going to help get the girl interested. Most girls would just give you the same one word bull. Don't start me with that open ended stuff, conversation will not work unless she's already interested. How do I know? I've had this happen a lot to me in the field and even if you ask open ended questions, it won't really help getting her interested.GaryUranga said:
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Uhhh...judging by your post, youre not the most socially intelligent person. Look at what you wrote and how it would sound if someone said the samething. Yes, you are DHVing, but the context in which youre doing so is in an arrogant manner. If you said you do track, thats one thing, but when you say youre a trackstar...you come off ****y. Clearly your DHV isnt working...so at least consider what im saying.ElStud said:
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
just an example but I think you get what I mean.Exactly. Its all about vibing. You match there vibe, and then you lead and have them pace you.GaryUranga said:like oakrider and I said, its about social intelligence in this case, DHV worked in that case because the delivery, the situation and everything allowed it to probably, its always about the way you say it, right, thats a "law" here but remeber theese laws are flexible, theese are social interactions, theres also a context in which things are done, you cant just go like yelling some ****y and funny comment at a class of meditating girls in yoga and expect it to work, not saying thats at all the case here