Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Like I said, that sh*t sucked bro, it's the reason why I'm afraid to approach because of bad approaches like this.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
A better social sense? Nah. You approach with all that conversational sh*t and it's really not going to help get the girl interested. Most girls would just give you the same one word bull. Don't start me with that open ended stuff, conversation will not work unless she's already interested. How do I know? I've had this happen a lot to me in the field and even if you ask open ended questions, it won't really help getting her interested.GaryUranga said:
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Uhhh...judging by your post, youre not the most socially intelligent person. Look at what you wrote and how it would sound if someone said the samething. Yes, you are DHVing, but the context in which youre doing so is in an arrogant manner. If you said you do track, thats one thing, but when you say youre a trackstar...you come off ****y. Clearly your DHV isnt working...so at least consider what im saying.ElStud said:
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
just an example but I think you get what I mean.Exactly. Its all about vibing. You match there vibe, and then you lead and have them pace you.GaryUranga said:like oakrider and I said, its about social intelligence in this case, DHV worked in that case because the delivery, the situation and everything allowed it to probably, its always about the way you say it, right, thats a "law" here but remeber theese laws are flexible, theese are social interactions, theres also a context in which things are done, you cant just go like yelling some ****y and funny comment at a class of meditating girls in yoga and expect it to work, not saying thats at all the case here