Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Like I said, that sh*t sucked bro, it's the reason why I'm afraid to approach because of bad approaches like this.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
A better social sense? Nah. You approach with all that conversational sh*t and it's really not going to help get the girl interested. Most girls would just give you the same one word bull. Don't start me with that open ended stuff, conversation will not work unless she's already interested. How do I know? I've had this happen a lot to me in the field and even if you ask open ended questions, it won't really help getting her interested.GaryUranga said:
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Uhhh...judging by your post, youre not the most socially intelligent person. Look at what you wrote and how it would sound if someone said the samething. Yes, you are DHVing, but the context in which youre doing so is in an arrogant manner. If you said you do track, thats one thing, but when you say youre a trackstar...you come off ****y. Clearly your DHV isnt working...so at least consider what im saying.ElStud said:
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
just an example but I think you get what I mean.Exactly. Its all about vibing. You match there vibe, and then you lead and have them pace you.GaryUranga said:like oakrider and I said, its about social intelligence in this case, DHV worked in that case because the delivery, the situation and everything allowed it to probably, its always about the way you say it, right, thats a "law" here but remeber theese laws are flexible, theese are social interactions, theres also a context in which things are done, you cant just go like yelling some ****y and funny comment at a class of meditating girls in yoga and expect it to work, not saying thats at all the case here