Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Like I said, that sh*t sucked bro, it's the reason why I'm afraid to approach because of bad approaches like this.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
A better social sense? Nah. You approach with all that conversational sh*t and it's really not going to help get the girl interested. Most girls would just give you the same one word bull. Don't start me with that open ended stuff, conversation will not work unless she's already interested. How do I know? I've had this happen a lot to me in the field and even if you ask open ended questions, it won't really help getting her interested.GaryUranga said:
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Uhhh...judging by your post, youre not the most socially intelligent person. Look at what you wrote and how it would sound if someone said the samething. Yes, you are DHVing, but the context in which youre doing so is in an arrogant manner. If you said you do track, thats one thing, but when you say youre a trackstar...you come off ****y. Clearly your DHV isnt working...so at least consider what im saying.ElStud said:
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
just an example but I think you get what I mean.Exactly. Its all about vibing. You match there vibe, and then you lead and have them pace you.GaryUranga said:like oakrider and I said, its about social intelligence in this case, DHV worked in that case because the delivery, the situation and everything allowed it to probably, its always about the way you say it, right, thats a "law" here but remeber theese laws are flexible, theese are social interactions, theres also a context in which things are done, you cant just go like yelling some ****y and funny comment at a class of meditating girls in yoga and expect it to work, not saying thats at all the case here