"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
GodsGiftToFatBirds
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Did you not come in about 2 seconds tho?
B-Lemond
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You: Hi.
Her: - - - -
You: You know, I just noticed something really interesting about you, that I bet most people wouldn't notice.
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I didn't sarge at all
I had some ego stroking to do...Hopefully tomorrow will be better.
I only have to do 9 approaches by sunday.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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I actually said that.
She knew what was up.
I've been sargeless for the last few days. Hopefully, I'll get in 50 approaches this week. It's hard racking up approaches in everyday places, but that is what makes this a little more special than some guy who goes to a club and says hi to every girl.....
For you guys doing all this sarging, how many actual beautiful woman (woman that you would consider girlfriend material), have you been dating? And further, if you have dated them for extended periods, have you kept their high interest level?
If so, why dont you have a girlfriend currently? As I have seem some of these names of the guys who are out sarging, going around for months now, without any mention of a meaningful relationship.
Just some thoughts, as it has been a long time since I was in your boat, and wonder how, with all this dating, you have not found a girl you really like yet and made her your girlfriend.
These thoughts just came as I see all these sarging threads lately, and remembered back to my days, with my mates, when we used to do this a lot. Although, after a long period of doing it, each and every one met a girl they really liked/loved, and ended the sarging (at least for a long period). The cycle then continues.
Pimp-sicle
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Clooney:
It take time for newbies to realize how to advance from cold-approaches to relationships. Also once they realize how easy it is to be confident and get girls, they love the attention they get from sooooo many different girls that they probably don't want a gf. Eventually all the sarging gets old and you meet a great girl. But once that relationship ends, the cycle starts all over again.
PIMP
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
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Clooney, I agree with PIMP's answer to your question, but secretly I do want a relationship.
Monday 24, 2005
2 approaches.....
I used my ballbreaker on a 2 set of cute asian girls. No numbers, only conversation...
Someone give me idea of everyday places to sarge.
Yeah, fair enough. Good to see some of these guys sarging at least know they want to find a great girl to settle down with for a while. All deep down want it, they just dont relise it at first, or blatantly deny it! But you are on the right track, all the guys out "sarging" will be the ones who end up with the great girls. And all the guys sitting doing no approaches, will be the ones who end up watching and always being single, or settling for less. I have seen it so many times!
Good luck boys!
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I am not asian, but I am a fan of asian women.
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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
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Daily total at 2:30 pm--- 31 approaches!!!!!!!!!!!
This is a quick summary........ I performed 25 approaches at a college near my home; I received 6 numbers, and one rejection from a nasty chick who wouldn't even say hi.
I performed 6 approaches at the mall without much success.
I learned 3 lessons:
1- I can approach anyone
2- Group approaches aren't as scary as we make them out to be. I actually seeked out groups; my ballbreaker technique was useful twice to day on the campus elevator, where I opened one 3 set and one 4 set. While on the elevator, I said something like, wow I have a pick of three GF's maybe I will choose you all, and I pointed to each one-- monday, tuesday, wednesday.
3- Rejection ain't shytte
I had the idea to open a class of 30 women, but wussied out
My new goal is to ballbreak a double digit set in the next 2 weeks.
I wish I had time to go into more detail, but I have to work....
Sarge on!!!!!!!!!!
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Did 8 more approaches got 2 new numbers (1 from a cutie that I had a crush on). I'll use weds to up my approach count. I've been courting the hb9 for the last 2 weeks; I'm happy with how this relationship is going.
Originally posted by lebRambo
haha! walk down the front of your class and say "all you ladies here look desperate for a real man. come down and put your number on this list."
hahahahahahahahahaahahahahahahaha
seriously though this thread is great!
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.