You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Did you not come in about 2 seconds tho?I hadn't masterbated or had sex in like 2 weeks,
Originally posted by MasterYoda
This HB9 must of been one of the nice ones whose down to earth. Last week I saw two hb10s and they were so up their asses when I said "hi" ignored me. The sad thing is there was nothing I could have done. Using a neg would have been suicide. So instead I said she had a nice face instead and she still walked past.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
WHAT?Originally posted by SELF-MASTERY
APPROACH #15:
Still in the same spot, but a few seconds later.
I spot a real cutie w/ glasses.... Smart girl hottness.
ME: Hey come here and receive this game.
Clooney:Originally posted by CLOONEY
Can I just ask a question out of interest, and this is not posed negatively at all.
For you guys doing all this sarging, how many actual beautiful woman (woman that you would consider girlfriend material), have you been dating? And further, if you have dated them for extended periods, have you kept their high interest level?
If so, why dont you have a girlfriend currently? As I have seem some of these names of the guys who are out sarging, going around for months now, without any mention of a meaningful relationship.
Just some thoughts, as it has been a long time since I was in your boat, and wonder how, with all this dating, you have not found a girl you really like yet and made her your girlfriend.
These thoughts just came as I see all these sarging threads lately, and remembered back to my days, with my mates, when we used to do this a lot. Although, after a long period of doing it, each and every one met a girl they really liked/loved, and ended the sarging (at least for a long period). The cycle then continues.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Yeah, fair enough. Good to see some of these guys sarging at least know they want to find a great girl to settle down with for a while. All deep down want it, they just dont relise it at first, or blatantly deny it! But you are on the right track, all the guys out "sarging" will be the ones who end up with the great girls. And all the guys sitting doing no approaches, will be the ones who end up watching and always being single, or settling for less. I have seen it so many times!Originally posted by SELF-MASTERY
#29/30
Clooney, I agree with PIMP's answer to your question, but secretly I do want a relationship.
Monday 24, 2005
2 approaches.....
I used my ballbreaker on a 2 set of cute asian girls. No numbers, only conversation...
Someone give me idea of everyday places to sarge.
I am not asian, but I am a fan of asian women.Originally posted by silenthill
What the hell is up with all these asians? Are you asian or something?
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Originally posted by lebRambo
haha! walk down the front of your class and say "all you ladies here look desperate for a real man. come down and put your number on this list."![]()
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.